Has anyone ever got pregnant at 'not the right time'?

[erja]

Posting here for traffic (and because I couldn't think what other topic to post in to get answers!)
AIBU to ask...

Has anyone ever TTC or had an unplanned pregnancy where the timing 'wasn't right' I.e financially, job wise, living situation and have everything work out for you and your family?

Alternatively, has anyone gone through with a pregnancy when the timing 'wasn't right' and massively struggled?

Hope someone doesn't mind sharing some light on this for me! Not sure if it's a bit personal.

Hope the actual question makes sense - the title is a bit clunky reading back!

I got pregnant twice at the 'wrong time'
The first was mid A-levels and the second was whilst trying to figure out the eldests SEN as well as with someone I didn't want to be tied to forever. Both times birth control failed.

It worked out. I made it work because I made the concious choice to keep those kids.

Twice. Never regretted either. They are 10 and 15 today.

I have PMd you OP.

Thanks for sharing and @Houseonahill thank you for the PM!

Yes, and not regretted it for a second. You can make anything work if you want to. Very glad and proud I have my son

Yes at 17 whilst unmarried, living at parents house and at college. At 18 I had a baby, bought a house, and finished college as did father of baby. We’ve now been together 20 years and have 2 amazing teenage sons. We worked hard, own our own business and have an amazing life!!! It’s bloody hard work when you’re not in the right place but if you are committed you can make it work.

Yes, out of five dc, three were definite surprises. It did work out okay. When I decided to continue the pregnancies I made it work out and for me / us the decision was the right one.

Yes! I had a baby during my degree, a baby during my masters and also a baby during my PhD. It all worked out, my kids have been to loads of random lectures and conferences and been babysat a lot by different members of my research group at work.

@namechanger2019 wow!!!

I find this thread kind of distasteful.

I got pregnant "at the wrong time". We were living in a flat which didn't allow children at the time. We were TTC though because we decided there really is never a right time as such. You could always be in a more suitable home or a better financial situation etc. Soon we went for it & everything worked out in the end because you make it

@BasilFaulty - then just skip past this thread & choose to read one of the hundreds of others instead?

@MuddyMoose yes, very true mindset. Thank you everyone for their stories - I'm glad they're all positive too! @BasilFaulty sorry you find it distasteful but don't think there's anything offensive on here and I tried not to word anything badly/negatively.

@muddymoose. You're right, I always say the same to other posters who do exactly what I just did! Apologies. Glad it worked out for all of you.

Yep, twice.

No regrets whatsoever

@BasilFaulty why?

If you're pregnant and thinking of taking steps to become unpregnant, that's OK too.

You don't need to "never want children", you just need to "not want to be pregnant right now".

Yes, I got pregnant during my A-levels, there was no way I wanted a child when my life was only just beginning so I had a termination. I have never regretted it for a second and went on to have children when the time was right.

@morningcoffeeee I guess because I had an abortion in the summer and it's making me feel guilty and second guess it. My own issue.
There's no 'perfect' time to have a child and it's refreshing to see women who've made it work. I know someone who had an abortion because they hadn't finished decorating the hallway

Oh absolutely. Fell pregnant at 21 when I was just moving into my second year of university with a boyfriend who was a shit, didn't want the baby and left me and DD in hospital two days after I'd given birth (this was after trying to emotionally blackmail me into giving her up for adoption, threatening suicide etc etc). Keeping her and him leaving were two of the best things that ever happened to me. Now living with my new DP who is amazing, in our own place. I'm undertaking an access course to become a midwife and DD is an absolute delight. It was absolutely not the right time but DD was a blessing and I feel very lucky to have her.

@BasilFaulty I'm really sorry to hear that and in no way was the thread intended to upset anyone

@erja totally fine, it's a happy thread and I have given my head a wobble.

Also my Dsis found out she was pregnant on the morning she sat her history GCSE. He's now 25

I had my DC at points in my life that made things difficult and my friends wouldn't have dreamed of doing the same. However - just a little way down the line, it's all absolutely lovely. Life just works itself out whatever route you choose.

I actually started the thread as I'm not sure if I'm being selfish by thinking about TTC #2 when our circumstances aren't completely 'prime' to have another.
We have a lovely little home but it is little. We love it but we probably wouldn't be able to get a bigger one before a baby came along.
I started a new job a few months ago - which is one I want to stay in, and not sure if it's too soon to be taking ML.
Financially, things are tight, but well budgeted and we aren't scrimping by. We manage money very well but not sure how well it'd be throwing childcare for a 2nd in!
I was just looking for others stories of it not being the 'right time' and it working out for them! I think I'm going to hold off for a few more months and re-evaluate.
Thank you everyone for sharing your experiences!!! (And sorry if there was any offence caused!)