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WIBU to get pizza delivered to DD's school for her birthday lunch?

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PizzaMom · 12/01/2019 19:51

I apparently am known as 'that' parent and have been given the side eye the few times I've gone in since!

It was DD's 16th last month on a school day. I ordered a few pizzas to be sent to school at lunchtime so she could share them with her mates in the common room. Teachers were not going to let her have themHmm and when they relented (by the time they got cold) made her and a few friends eat them in a separate meeting room when she had planned to share them as there was enough for about 20 people!

I don't see it as being that different from me bringing in a forgotten lunch box?

I also ordered flowers and a balloon to be delivered and school refused to let her have them until after school had finished.

I was trying to make DD's day special. I really didn't think would have been that much of an issue which ruined it a bit for DD.

WIBU?

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SauvignonBlanche · 13/01/2019 14:18

Hilarious! Grin

Kariana · 13/01/2019 14:20

I'm not sure what you think would happen or how the school would cope if every parent did this for their child's 16th birthday. It would be completely ridiculous and unreasonable. Imagine the time to take deliveries, the mess of pupils left pizza boxes/balloons/flowers everywhere. Not to mention the disruption in lessons as pupils came in sporting balloons and flowers that would get messed about with, cooed over etc taking up lesson time. It's one day for your dd but with say 100 pupils in a year group that 100 days of the staff trying to manage potential disruptions. Your dd might be responsible but not everyone is and schools don't have the capacity to deal with this sort of nonsense. They have to make one rule for everyone and can't be seen to be making an exception just because you think it's okay. You're being very unreasonable here.

Tiredismymiddlename85 · 13/01/2019 14:21

Yes you are 'that mum' - totally unnecessary and OTT!

manicinsomniac · 13/01/2019 14:23

Don't get why this has to be a troll. Could be, of course - as could any of the threads on here. But it's not hard to believe.

I can think of at least two parents at school who I could absolutely see doing this when their children reach. They genuinely seem to think that their child is special in a way that the other children aren't and need to be treated as such.

Years ago, one (lovely, lovely woman - just totally on her own planet) gave me a full on, real, 6ft Christmas tree to put in my classroom because she didn't like to think of her child not being able to 'see Christmas' during form time (yes, I was a grinch and had no paper chains and snowflakes - I teach a specialist subject so they just got in the way in a non standard classroom). It was bigger and better than one in reception! And the child was only in the room to see it for 10 minutes on most days!

The best thing we've had was a child who had her 13th birthday party in the Dorchester and, along with three of her best friends, was picked up early from school to travel to it via helicopter. The parents of the other children were expected to take their children to London and dress up for formal family photographs taken in the entrance.

MinisterforCheekyFuckery · 13/01/2019 14:25

I know this is nuts. But I really want to do this for DD’s 16th!
I’m going to ask school for permission tho. Her birthdays a Monday and they’re all stressing about GCSEs think it would be nice for the entire class and teachers.
Or I’m as mad as the op

17 pages of OP getting her arse handed to her, people thinking she must be a troll because they can't believe anyone would do something so ridiculous, several people who actually work in secondary schools saying what a giant pain in the arse this would be and that their school would not allow it and what you've taken away from this thread is "what a lovely idea, I'm going to do the same!"

Ok then.

Aquilla · 13/01/2019 14:27

People fussing about allergies clearly haven't spent much time in secondary schools. All kinds of shit gets brought in and there's nowt anyone can do about it!

misskiki69 · 13/01/2019 14:31

She supposedly doesn't care what anyone thinks yet starts this thread, clearly wanting other people's opinions. Contradictory. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

CoughLaughFart · 13/01/2019 14:34

No one was needed to dish out anything Cough.

Oh, so the pizzas grew legs and walked to your daughter? I see!

DioneTheDiabolist · 13/01/2019 14:41

YWBVU OP. Pizza at school for your DD's 16th birthday? I'm Blush for her and you. We did that for DS when he was like 11.Shock

For DS's 16th we had Heston Bloomingheck take over the HE room and cook a 5 course, specially created lunch for the whole of 5th form and the teaching staff.GrinGrinGrin

KittensAndCake · 13/01/2019 14:43

So OP are you going to tell us what cringey thing you did to mark her first period?

flamingofridays · 13/01/2019 14:46

cough op said her daughter was waiting for themHmm

Stompythedinosaur · 13/01/2019 14:48

I think the whole stunt was designed to make your dd feel superior (and you clearly feel a superior mum for having arranged it). I think that is not a nice way to behave. Any pleasure your dd would get would cone at the expense of making others feel bad.

If it was really about the flowers/balloon/pizza you would have done those things at home.

Smallhorse · 13/01/2019 14:49

As we say round here

Aye, right

labazsisgoingmad · 13/01/2019 14:51

i assume the school has a canteen so would probably provide hot meals maybe pizza. this is something that should have been for home not school the sentiment of making it special is ok but you could have put in a nice note in her lunch box then had the pizza balloon and flowers at home inviting some friends of hers

Lunde · 13/01/2019 14:51

Really bizarre and attention seeking - so "look at me" - imagine if every child's parents pulled these stunts. Do you not think that staff have better stuff to do.

Most families are happy to celebrate their child's birthday before and/or after school - they don't need a whole school audience

mathanxiety · 13/01/2019 14:52

Bunch of miserable harridans making personal insults against a stranger under the anonymity of an Internet forum

I absolutely agree @PizzaMom.

Klobuchar I am also in America, and not only would it happen in my kids' schools, it has happened, many times that I am aware of and probably many more times that I am not aware of.

The elementary school discouraged in the strongest possible terms the bringing of forgotten lunch and homework or supplies for gym or art though - seemingly not the case with UK schools, where students are not expected to be able to manage the details of their own lives. Many here seem to think it is perfectly ok to bother schools with PFBs' forgotten items and even remark without comment on a school office sending runners to notify students their stuff is waiting for them at the office, or even making deliveries to a classroom Shock

It is so normal and un-noteworthy to celebrate a birthday in school with a nice gesture involving pizza for the class or flowers for the birthday student that I find the strength of feeling here against it really surprising.

The OTT responses and the incredibly nasty personal digs are truly something to behold. Really strange.

No wonder bullying is such a problem in British schools when being in any way different, sticking your neck out, or doing something to celebrate an individual is seen as so incredibly wrong, and where piling on to stick the boot in for 17 pages (and counting) is seen as perfectly fine.

The language used is very interesting.

Clearly the people making references to 'Mean Girls' are irony-challenged.

CoughLaughFart · 13/01/2019 14:53

cough op said her daughter was waiting for them Hmm

She said runners go to take forgotten homework and PE kits to them, so why couldn’t they deliver pizza? Why did she say that if the daughter was waiting for them and no staff involvement was required? It sounds an awful lot like she was expecting the school to fanny about organising this.

Even if the daughter expected no help collecting pizzas for 20 people, it still meant staff had to find the time to organise somewhere for 20 people to eat this food. Who sorted the clean-up afterwards?

Babypug · 13/01/2019 14:54

Thankfully she won't be in school for any more 'special birthdays' and to think you have taken to write on mumsnet to boast about your efforts is so embarrassing. Your asking for opinions of strangers that don't mean anything to you yet your offended with the replies?!
Why couldn't you just leave it be and be the talk of your own local community instead of demanding attention elsewhere?!

flamingofridays · 13/01/2019 14:55

The "clean up"

What binning some boxes?

Presumably the 16yos. Not that hard is it?

CoughLaughFart · 13/01/2019 14:56

I am also in America, and not only would it happen in my kids' schools, it has happened, many times that I am aware of and probably many more times that I am not aware of.

This couldn’t be less relevant. The OP isn’t in America (and in any case, more than the one other US-based poster also thinks this is ridiculous) and the school has made it quite clear that this IS a problem. An unrelated school in a different country allowing this is neither here nor there.

CoughLaughFart · 13/01/2019 14:56

*The "clean up"

What binning some boxes?

Presumably the 16yos. Not that hard is it?*

Hard? No. Likely? Also no.

FloofenHoofen · 13/01/2019 14:57

That's massively humiliating. I'm surprised you didn't do it for every birthday the way you seem to want to make a song and dance about it. Are you a drama queen OP?

flamingofridays · 13/01/2019 14:58

My 14yo ss manages to clear up after himself.

You must only know lazy spoilt 16yos if you think it's unlikely.

CoughLaughFart · 13/01/2019 15:00

You mean the kind of 16 year-old who thinks getting dozens of pizzas sent into school without a moment’s planning is a good idea? That kind of spoilt?

Eliza9917 · 13/01/2019 15:00

Are you that poster that periodically comes on here moaning about how rich you are Hmm