To think that your all secret mumsneters?

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I'm new here and I've notice that quite a few posters change their name on here so they're not sussed out I guess?

Does any of your friends and family know that you use mumsnet? Or do you not even mention it in case your baiting yourself out 

Curious to know.

@Andjustlikethat I'm not saying you'd try "to suss your mother out" I'm saying that surely when people are talking they give information about themselves, ie hair style, height, what area they live in, what car they drive. All these small things that are being said is quite outing yourself, if someone was to search your nn they can see what threads you've started and what you've posted on and collect all those little bits and you could find out that that's your mother 

I could tell you but I'd have to kill you.

PM me if you want any suggestions for particularly good vintages of Chianti.

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@JonSlow the point that I'm trying to make to a pp.it's quite easy to out yourself on here.

I wonder if your friend sees this and recognises you

I've used OnePlan, she's an absolute genius! Although I didn't tell her my username on here.

I don't get the secrecy - it's not like someone knowing you're on MN would allow them to track you down, among the millions of posts?

uht actually I don't give that info out.

And I'm extremely glad you don't to 'suss my mother out'. She's old and terribly boring

My grown up children used to laugh at me but my youngest daughter is now following a twitter account that posts outrageous threads from here - she's not mentioned anything about beakers yet

Dh knows I'm here but has never looked or doesn't know my name as far as I know. I think if he came on he'd never leave-he'd love it!!!

I change mine once a week maybe, I really don't want a paper trail adding up because of an ex

@Andjustlikethat I wasn't saying you did, others do though 

DH knows, but doesn't really understand what it is, absolutely nobody else knows they all just think I'm super clever and fabulous and know a lot of things, about a lot of things!

I know that my SIL uses it and she knows I use it but we don't know each other's usernames - I can't be bothered to try and find out and neither can she.

Can someone tell me what One Plan is.

When I was havung my first baby my other half saw me googling "over bearing mother in law" it led me to an MN forum but i wasnt a member then.
I dont know if people recognise me or not

Most of my friends know I use mumsnet! I don't think it's a big deal.

I don't post personal stuff about anyone though.

Yeah, I tell loads of people but I'm as equally gobby in real life as here, so nothing to hide.

I don’t openly admit using MN (except to my partner who enjoys hearing about any obvious bollocks threads), but it’s usually open on my phone so I assume many people know I at least read it.

I recognised someone from real life on here. I doubt they cared they were being outing, over several threads they revealed all manner of personal information (including their real name). Nothing juicy though .

No one knows I'm here. MN is pretty much unheard of in the US. I only found it after reading a short article about it in The Economist magazine.

I know there have been a few threads where the OP has been rumbled by the person they're complaining about (or their friends/family); however, I wonder if there have been threads where the subject being complained about responds and actively engages with the OP, but neither of them have any idea it's actually about them?

A bit like in The Pina Colada Song.

"AIBU to think that my 'D'H is having an affair? I checked his phone (I know, I shouldn't) and discovered that he'd been exchanging hundreds of texts with a female whose name I don't recognise and whom he's never mentioned to me. For 10 months now, we've been arguing a lot, but I still love him greatly - he's fully aware of that. I've been so upset, I even ended up blurting it out to the new woman at the corner shop when I popped in for some milk today. I really don't know what to think."

"Man here. That sounds really concerning () and I really hope it turns out to be innocent - but have you maybe changed yourself? Does he know that you still love him and respect him? My 'D'W and I used to be really close, but she's shown no interest in sex, or even just hugging - just seems to tolerate me really - for the best part of a year. I have to confess that I struck up a friendship with a woman - also in our local shop, as it happens - and she just seemed to understand me perfectly in the way my wife used to but doesn't seem at all bothered now. I feel really guilty, but we're like soulmates and we've taken it to an intimate level; and I, too, find myself messaging her frequently throughout the day."

"Prepared to be flamed here, but I am an OW. One of the daily customers in the shop where I work is a really amazing man. He's so friendly and we always end up having a lengthy chat. He shared with me that his 'D'W has become so distant for months and months. They're still officially married at the moment, but he says they've both known for some time that it's over; but he doesn't want to hurt her and hasn't plucked up the courage to tell her he wants a divorce. We've since become VERY close, on a regular basis, IYKWIM. I feel a bit bad that they haven't officially split yet, but I'm just so crazy about him. I wish the hours away, longing for the next morning when he'll be in for his daily Mars bar and can of Coke and my heart always jumps when I hear my phone beep."

"Malcolm, is that you?!"

"Wait a minute - Gladys?!"

"Um, you don't do the early shift at the Londis in Little Follington, do you?"

My DH knows I'm here and probably the DC. They are small though.

I never tell anyone in real life!

sorry I'm dyslexic, I get it all the time

Wow, and the rest of your posts are incredibly well crafted, too.

Yes and yes.
I always out myself with descriptions etc.
I regularly name change, but still manage to over share.

DH knows and a couple of work friends but that is it. Nobody knows my username and I try to keep anything super identifiable off MN. I haven't worked out how to name change yet...

@Yabbers I mostly struggle with punctuation, knowing what should be used ie they're their there, your you're, and my wording isn't great it doesn't flow well 

I ALWAYS change details on here so no one who knows me can identify me, so ages, gender, hair colour, city, occupation, holiday venue etc will be disguised and shift from thread to thread. Only the details that are strictly relevant to the topic of the thread will remain accurate. And I name change often.

And as for DD spotting a thread I post about sex. LOL! Like most DC she probably thinks me and her dad only had sex as many times as we have children! That’s certainly what I prefer to believe about my own parents.