Help exDH suicidal

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Don't want to drip feed - cheating ex husband (several affairs) has now decided that he wants to be a family again. Except his idea of being a family is basically controlling me. He's controlled me for years and I've told him no more. So he's shut himself away (very close by) and said he's basically going to kill himself.
WTF do I/can I do??
He's saying that if I don't want my kid to be damaged and lose Daddy then I'd do what he was asking to make sure she didn't 😭😭

Call the police and walk away

call the police and leave it with them that it all you can do

And stick to it you need to put yourself and you child first

Phone the police/ambulance and tell them he's threatening suicide.

The block him

What will the police do?

You phone 999 and then ignore.

Massive hugs, this is not your problem and he's continuing being abusive.

Phone the police, and then his Mum. Don't get drawn into his attempts at control. Send a clear message this is unacceptable.

Ignore him. He is still trying to control you by his actions.

Police will do a welfare check and get him medical help if needed

Police - and then do nothing.

It sounds like he’s a manipulative wankstain

And you haven't called 999, why??

Ignore and block.

Jesus, so he is trying to manipulate you into playing happy families!

Call the police and do not engage with him.

The police will investigate and get him help if needed. Do that now

And if it turns out he’s being manipulative and emotionally blackmailing you there will also be a record

Ambulance - not police....they can do very little unless he is literally standing at the edge of a cliff. He needs medical intervention.

His parents are dead 😩
I'm worried about sending the police because he is practically on the doorstep anyway but my LOs friends are right next door. If the police turn up now they'll see them and can make contact via phones

the police will deal with him - call 999 they can get the ball rolling they will be easily able to determine how serious he is and deal with it from there

Do that and then stop engaging.

That's just another way of controlling you dear xxxxxxxxxx you need to tell him is his choice nothing you can do

Report to 999 then walk away

He's not your responsibility, he's an adult, and an emotionally manipulative shit at that

Would it be really awful of me to say that to him? I can't cope with his emotional blackmail any more but the thought of passing on that news makes my stomach turn.

So he’s still trying to control you this time through threats and fear. Tell him you’ve alerted the mental health services of his condition and then ignore .

Agree it is right to call 999, tell the police, they will take it seriously. It is not your fault, whatever happens. Hope things turn out ok.

He's not going to do it. 100%. I had an ex who threatened me the same way and told me it would be my fault when he did. I ended up having to go to the police because he also threatened me in other ways and stalked me.
I told him I was going to go to the police and he sneered at me and didn't believe me.
I did and as soon as he was spoken to by police, that was the end of all his nonsense.

Go to the police NOW OP, please and don't listen to anything he's saying.

Watch this, roll your eyes at his lack of originality, and then carry on with your day: m.youtube.com/watch?v=d5NHBn5p9vY

And then do the Freedom Programme to help you navigate his bullshit. Www.freedomprogramme.co.uk

He has no intention of killing himself, it’s just emotional blackmail.
Someone who wants to kill the selves doesn’t go around telling people.
Call the police and ignore him,

As for his friends seeing police/Your DC friends seeing police (sorry I'm confused) - that doesn't matter really. You do what you need to and explain as appropriate afterwards.