Am I right to be shocked that...

[WhenLifeGivesYouLemonsx]

A woman in the supermarket the other day had her toddler with her, must've been about 3 years old and she filled her entire trolley full of baby jars (cleared the shelf) and I overheard her say to her boyfriend "this should all last for a week if she has 3 of them a day"

Surely this is just... not right?! I am probably being judgmental here but how long does it take to cook a meal, maybe a spag bol or sausages and mash? Them jars taste like shit as well. When I gave one to my son when he was first weaned and we was out visiting family, it smelt of sick & even he spat it out

What you find disgusting may be all someone else can stomach.

Tbh having a disabled child and therefore now knowing , a lot of family's with children with disabilities if I witnessed something like that I would assume that there was far more to the situation than just that the parents couldn't be arsed to cook .

There is a difference between a spare of the moment judgement and judging to the extent you then come online and post hoping others will share in your glee of judgement

Well.quite ,Sirzy

I would totally have the same first thought as you, as I do know people who have fed baby jars waaaay over the necessary age out of laziness

BUT I also have a friend who's son is a teenager and he had to have an operation and be in intensive care for the first 18 months of his life. He will only ever be able to eat "mush" even though you would never tell to look at him. She buys him jarred fruit and the snack to go pouches as frankly she does enough meal prep for the savoury dishes!

Also could be going on holiday and want emergency back up

Could have sensory processing issues and it be a texture reason

Might have a younger child

Might be going into hospital and prefer that to the hospitals child meals (I would! Even at 3! or 30!)

When we went long haul to visit my inlaws DD1 was 15 months and a great great eater, no fussiness, huge appetite... The whole time we were there she eat nothing, just didnt seem or act hungry! After a few days I started giving her bottles just to get something in her and she was drinking them on and off all day. Hope I wasn't being judged by anyone...

Long story short, YANBU to have that first snapshot reaction but YABVU to not have a little think and give your head a wobble instead

I'd have assumed she has a younger child. And my daughter ate a lot of those jars Before she was onto solids because I worked and didn't have a lot of time she's now a healthy happy 21 year old.

Stop making assumptions about people.

It would be a lot cheaper to buy a butternut squash, a chicken breast and some green vegetables and purée them into a lot of meals but people seem to have a weird relationship with real food now. If that’s what makes them happy then fine but the lack of nutrition in their children’s food is storing up problems for them in the future. It really is their choice though.

@Mimibunz, you said it for me.

How'd you know he was her boyfriend? Just interested to know

I bet you wouldn't have judged if she'd put a bunch of jarred spaghetti or , pesto, or curry sauce in the kart. Same difference. Less crap in the babyfood jars though.

Brexit prepping was my first thought

This could well have been me last year, desperately grabbing anything soft and easy to eat from the baby aisle for my 69 year old mum who had had a large stroke and was unable to swallow safely. Please think before you judge.

If you start a sentence by saying ‘I’m not XXXX but...’, you most definitely are.

we are all jidgemental

No we’re not.

There’s a 100 different reasons why that mother could’ve been buying jarred baby food. There could also be 100 different reasons why she said what she did too but you’ve jumped to the worst possible scenario and presented as fact so you could have a little bitch about it online. Nice.

My friends LO was a very fussy eater, those jars were a godsend for her. She knew her DD was getting food! Her other two were great eaters.

All three children grew up happy and healthy and eating a balanced diet.

Don't look in other peoples trolleys!! Not if you're going to judge!!

You said, "Them jars", instead of, "Those jars", so would one expect you to know anything? I certainly wouldn't.

Just spat my coffee out all over the table. Perhaps being judgemental isn’t all bad

No, not everyone is judgemental. That's a false assumption in itself!
Most people are too busy focusing on what they are putting in their own trolley to notice or care what other people are doing.
If someone asked me what the person stood next to me a moment ago had just picked off the shelf I wouldn't have a clue whether they'd filled their trolley with toilet rolls or 100 tins of cat food!

"We are all judgmental. Nobody is perfect! Maybe I was being judgmental but I suppose that's what comes into my head"

Some of us know that not having all the facts means there's no judgement we can make.

You can work on your thought process.

It's now been explained why someone might be buying jars, not that it needs an explanation.

Realise your lack of knowledge and tell yourself that next time.

Wouldn't give them to my son, but since becoming a mother I have leanred not to judge other mums, you never know waht they are going through

You do realise jar food is food. It has been developed and made with babies health in mind, there are organic options also. They aren't jars of glass and sand. So fucking what if the child was having 3 a day it's FOOD!

The fact the woman was calling out how long the jars would last would indicate it's not their norm, or itnwouldnt have needed saying.

It could be something as simple as they are going on holiday, have a baby and wanted to have jars with them they knew the child would eat.

It's very odd to assume the three year old was being fed it.

I love a good trolley judge, I once asked the man with a lot of beer and dog food in his basket if the dog was having a party. We both laughed.

I sometimes like to look at an interesting trolley and come up with a backstory in my head

When dd2 2 1/2 has surgery on her mouth (cleft) we go back to jars as they're easy to transport don't need a fridge and won't catch on the stiches

Shes on them for up to 3 weeks after till she finishes pain meds I'd love to cook for her but I have another dd who needs me, work and she's usually in so much pain after I can't put her down let alone cook while holding her

Looking at dd2 you'd never know what she's been through but she gets judged all the time can't speak, can't hear well, can't manage anything she should by her age group including food textures

Don't judge

Assumption is the mother of all....

Everyone should try not to make assumptions or judge based on simply what they see...

The comments and disapproving looks we have had off people because our youngest DC still needs a pushchair occasionally to get around (she's 7 and has motility issues with severe development delay) or because she can't say sorry if she does something wrong (she's non-verbal). Or when we just give her the whole darn packet of biscuits/cake whatever because she's refusing to get off the floor or screaming and everyone is staring.

Always think before you jump to conclusions.

My 3 year old is disabled & has issues with both chewing & swallowing. If I had her in a buggy or the trolley no one would know there was anything wrong with her even though she cannot walk or talk.

She can only eat smooth puree's. I make all her food at home. However, if we go away I have to take baby food with me for her to eat. Not ideal but better than her starving. So yes, judgemental unless you know their full story. Even then, at least they are feeding ther child.

With you @needlemaker