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Bloody parking wars!

77 replies

Damnivy · 08/01/2019 18:29

Another parking one guys! So for background, i live in a very busy road. There are not nearly enough spaces for the amount of cars. Mostly down to alot of driveways and quite a few dissabillity bays. 3 Very close to me. (Just so that you know, I have no issues with people having dissabillity bays). I don't have a drive. And have never had any issues with any neighbour's.

I don't expect to be able to park in front of my house all the time. And often can't. Everyone tries to be thoughtful with parking. Except one! Across the road, a neighbour with a dissabillity bay is such a pain. When his wife leaves for work, he pulls out of the bay and parks on the street. Often in front of my house as I'm on the school run at the time, until his wife gets home, she bibs, he comes and pulls back into disability bay, so she has space to park. Ive ignored this for 3 years.

So ive not long had back surgury, in quite a bit of pain, so parking has been getting to me lately. I don't get my shopping deliverd as have 2 children with severe food allergies and literally need to read everything I buy. Husband's away for work. So get back today with my shopping, neighbour is looking in his boot, parked in front of my house. Nearest space is 6 houses down. Need to carry alot of shopping, still unable to lift much, and have two young children. I stop and explain situation to neighbour, ask if he can please park in his bay so that I can unload car. He told me to fuck off. I'm not intimidated. I tell him he is being very selfish, to this he calls me an entitled bitch. Other neighbour hears this and tells me I can park over her drive while I unload my car. Very grateful.
This evening ive just had the police knock my door. I explained all to the police, they completly took my neighbours side and told me I sound very anti disability!!! Hmm. Basically made me feel like I was being very childish, arguing over parking. I told them I didn't raise my voice, use any bad language, and was polite until I was called names. They told me my neighbour now feels to scared to leave his house. SERIOUSLY!!! I can't belive it. They told me if I have to park 6 houses away then I need to suck it up.

Now I'm confused. Who was being unreasonable? Police think it's me. I feel like asking one time, when he has a perfectly good space to park in isn't that bad. Is it?

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Returnofthesmileybar · 08/01/2019 18:46

So let me get this straight, he basically pulls his car out in the morning to reserve a space for his wife when she gets in from work? And then called the police on you when you asked him politely to move into the disabled space for which he has a blue badge? Yanbu, he is a knob, "technically" I guess he is doing nothing wrong but what a knob all the same

Returnofthesmileybar · 08/01/2019 18:48

I'd be do tempted to lie in wait till the wife beeps next time and when he moves to whip into the space before she had a chance to, but I am petty like that Grin

abbsisspartacus · 08/01/2019 18:48

How is it disabalist to ask a disabled person to use a disabled parking space

Littlechocola · 08/01/2019 18:49

Which of them is the blue badge holder? Him or her?

abbsisspartacus · 08/01/2019 18:49

I'm more petty I would get people to report her for beeping her horn

Bananacentral · 08/01/2019 18:52

I’m also in the ‘do something petty in return’ camp. Returns idea of nipping into space is just what I would do!

SillySallySingsSongs · 08/01/2019 18:53

Which of them is the blue badge holder? Him or her?

^ this

Hoopaloop · 08/01/2019 18:54

If he's afraid to leave the house now, hopefully the parking problem is resolved (unless he's still parked in front of yours).

CoffeeRunner · 08/01/2019 18:54

It depends (partly) on who is the disabled driver.

If it is his wife then I understand the need for her to park near her home after work. Or is it both of them? But they’re only allowed one disabled bay allocated?

There is no excuse for him to swear at you however. As for calling the Police - I’m surprised they even came out to that!

Greatorb · 08/01/2019 18:56

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Returnofthesmileybar · 08/01/2019 18:56

I read it as he is the blue badge but pulls out when she leaves to reserve a normal space, she beeps and he pull back into his blue badge space, is that right?

If it is then you need a blue badge visitor to come for a week month just to fuck him off

Damnivy · 08/01/2019 18:57
Grin He is the badge holder! No technically doing nothing wrong by doing this. Just very annoying! Amd sorry should have said, he's not actually just pulling back into the space his wife moves from, he pulls across the street, nearly always outside my house. Unless they both go out together, so no one is there to save the space. (I live opposite).
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SillySallySingsSongs · 08/01/2019 18:57

Park in the disabled bay. They are advisory so you won't get a ticket.

No they aren't.

BunsOfAnarchy · 08/01/2019 18:58

YANBU. He is being an arsehole

YABU for not including obligatory parking pic for parking threads lol

Greatorb · 08/01/2019 18:58

@SillySallySingsSongs

Yes they are

Damnivy · 08/01/2019 19:00

Greatorb his has signs up unfortunately, so illegal to park without a blue badge. So couldn't even park there to take my shopping in as he wasn't in it.
Returnofthesmileybear Yes that's right!

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maz210 · 08/01/2019 19:02

Greatorb - if the disabled is on a public road it's definitely enforceable. The ones that can't be enforced are in privately owned car parks.

Littlechocola · 08/01/2019 19:03

Sorry, misread it.
Is his wife more approachable?

CantWaitToRetire · 08/01/2019 19:04

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Hidillyho · 08/01/2019 19:04

Greatorb I just googled it. Apparently if they aren’t

blackteasplease · 08/01/2019 19:04

Take it fuether up the chain with the police. They treated you very badly. He has in fact committed a public order offence by speaking to you in that way.

Hidillyho · 08/01/2019 19:07

Greatorb his has signs up unfortunately
Ah, this is what makes it enforceable.

I feel your pain OP. My arsehole next door neighbor does similar. They have 3 cars, driveway takes 1 car only so they use this one over the others and have their other 2 cars parked outside our houses

AimlesslyPurposeful · 08/01/2019 19:12

I have never actually heard anyone call someone entitled in RL - Common on here though.

I bet he’s a Mumsnetter. He’ll be along in a mo with a diagram.

Also, I want to live where you live as the police won’t come out here when you’ve just woken up to find your house burgled and the intruder could still be in the property! Your local PCs are clearly twiddling their thumbs responding to such nonsense.

MissEliza · 08/01/2019 19:15

I'm amazed the police came out to that. I wonder if the neighbour has a friend or relative in the police?

Damnivy · 08/01/2019 19:31

To be honest, i dont think he has been entirely honest with the police. He has no reason to be scared to leave his house. He was the one swearing and being offensive, I had my kids in the car with me, so kept very calm. Wonder if after he calmed down and panicked as he was so rude, or maybe just an arse and wants to cause me more trouble!

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