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Feel numb towards baby

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JennaJohnson · 07/01/2019 21:09

What's happening to me? This morning, i adored my baby. He's 11 weeks old. He's beautiful. I love him so much. This evening though I just suddenly feel, weird. I look at him and feel a numbness. His crying suddenly doesn't bother me. It's like my motherly instincts have disappeared and I feel quite scared and confused.

Has anyone else experienced this? And if so, how do I fix it?

I feel horrible and just want to disappear in to a hole for a day and wake up feeling like I did yesterday - normal.

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UhUhUhDennis · 07/01/2019 21:11

Post natal depression. See your GP tomorrow. It'll pass xx

onthebonnybonnybanks · 07/01/2019 21:11

Oh dear, it sounds to me like you might just be beyond exhausted. Tiredness can do funny things to you. It’s not that you don’t still adore your baby you’re probably just so tired you’re shutting down a little bit. Maybe try and get a few early nights (since you’ll probably be up several times anyway!)

FFSFFSFFS · 07/01/2019 21:11

Post natal depression. Go see your GP

Don't panic can all be sorted! And you really do really love your bubba

Thewifipasswordis · 07/01/2019 21:12

"Has anyone else experienced this?" Here we go again...

Pnd OP. Go see your gp.

BlueSuffragette · 07/01/2019 21:13

Yes agree it sounds like it could be PND. Get support tomorrow. X

KimchiLaLa · 07/01/2019 21:13

Your hormones are going crazy right now - you've just given birth to a whole new life!

See your GP if you do feel the same way tomorrow, even if to talk it through.

Pachyderm1 · 07/01/2019 21:15

You’re probably knackered and adjusting to this vast life change. Give it a few days and you’ll probably feel much better. And if you don’t, speak to your GP - PND could be a factor and it’s nothing to be ashamed of

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JennaJohnson · 07/01/2019 21:16

@Thewifipasswordis what do you mean by 'here we go again?'

I feel awful I'm just so tired.

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Divgirl2 · 07/01/2019 21:18

It could be PND, but similarly you might just have reached the dimension beyond tired. I wouldn't panic or read too much in to it right now.

Try and get a good sleep tonight (trust me, I'm well aware how ridiculous that sounds having barely slept in months) and if you feel the same tomorrow then see your GP or contact your HV to talk things over with them.

Balaboosteh · 07/01/2019 21:19

It’s a bit of a brutal comment - but be reassured that it simply means, yes, this is completely and utterly normal. So much so that it would be abnormal for you not to feel this way! Hope things get easier soon.

Bluffinwithmymuffin · 07/01/2019 21:21

It’s alright, OP, don’t panic. As others have suggested, it could be early onset mild pnd- or you’re just over tired and having a moment. This is the worst time of year for feeling a bit low/flat/blue/numb, I always think, even without a new baby!

Take it easy on yourself and make a GP appointment in the morning. Good luck

c24680 · 07/01/2019 21:23

I felt like this at around 12 weeks, a few extra visits with my health visitor helped me overcome it.

It is normal to feel this, you're tired and exhausted you'll be fine but please do speak to your health visitor or GP

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 07/01/2019 21:23

Have you got a partner OP? Or someone to take over while you sleep? Please see your GP tomorrow and explain how you feel.

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JennaJohnson · 07/01/2019 21:24

I feel like if you told me I was going to die tomorrow I wouldn't care. I didn't feel like this this morning. How can I feel to awful so quickly? DH is working away. I'm on my own with baby. I just want a hug. Think I might go for a walk with him in the sling to keep him warm. I really hope I feel normal again tomorrow.

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auberbene · 07/01/2019 21:26

You're knackered. This is normal and okay.

Try and sleep while the baby sleeps. You'll feel a million times better once you've got some rest.

If you're still feeling like this tomorrow, book an appointment

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 07/01/2019 21:27

Is your mum nearby or a good friend?

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JennaJohnson · 07/01/2019 21:28

@GreatDuckCookery mum is on the end of a phone. I can call a good friend but not sure I've got one who will come over. Just went to my first baby group today and I was the only one there which was a bit sad. I'm trying to meet more people who are in the same position as me.

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JennaJohnson · 07/01/2019 21:32

I tried to make an appointment with my gp today for something completely different and they gave a 2 week wait. I can't feel like this for 2 weeks.

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GreatDuckCookery6211 · 07/01/2019 21:37

Give your mum a quick ring, I'm sure it would be nice to hear her voice.

Do you know any more new mums? NCT? Don't lose heart regarding the baby group today, it's just after Christmas and people are still probably busy getting back in a routine. Give it another go soon.

If you feel like this in the morning ring the HV, she will try and get you an appointment ime or you could ring the surgery and explain that you're a new mum that's feeling very low, hopefully they will try and slot you in.

When DH back?

Smurf123 · 07/01/2019 21:38

@JennaJohnson phone your gp tomorrow and say it is an urgent appointment. They keep same day appointments aside and this is a time you can use them.
Maybe give your mum or friend a call even if it is just to chat.. It might help in the mean time tonight.
Baby groups are hard, i ended up paying to go to baby sensory with my lo but it did help to meet people with babies around the same age.. I liked the structure of baby sensory as it allowed for chat amongst the mums for short periods but had the elements of us all doing something together for the rest..

onthebonnybonnybanks · 07/01/2019 21:38

Call them back first thing and tell them you have a new baby and you’re concerned that you are suffering from PND. They should be able to see you v quickly for this. Failing that call your health visitor as they can also support you with this (even if it turns out to ‘just’ be tiredness). I’ve had PND and it was the worst feeling in the world, but I (eventually) got help and things improved quickly. It’s not necessarily this in your case, it’s totally normal to feel all over the place when you’ve had a baby, even when you’re a few months in, so don’t worry, you WILL be fine! Just make sure you make a fuss about seeing the doctor!

homegrownmumma · 07/01/2019 21:39

Garauntee you probably were not the only one at baby group that was abit sad , the others might be better at hiding it !
Motherhood is wonderful and you love your baby but it can also be exhausting and a little bit shit at times , I promise you will feel
Better once the newborn stage is gone !

TenaciousP · 07/01/2019 21:39

Call the GP tomorrow and explain how you're feeling and that you have no immediate support. Also call your health visitor and tell them how you're feeling. They should come to see you and help you get in touch with your GP if you cannot get an appointment quickly. In the meantime be kind to yourself. X

peachgreen · 07/01/2019 21:39

OP, don't panic. Yes, feeling numb towards your baby can be a symptom of PND - but it can also just be a symptom of being completely exhausted! Don't assume the worst just yet. See how you feel tomorrow.

1MillionSelfiesTakenByMyKids · 07/01/2019 21:40

Call your health visitor. Or ask for an emergency GP appt.

If at all possible get in to bed with baby. Set up safe co sleeping. Do everythi ng you can to maximise sleep.

I've been here and i didn't need anti depressants in the end but i did need some good hardcore sleep. Second baby i prioritised sleep over everything and remained well. Look after yourself love. You need to be ok. Remember baby won't know or remember that you feel a bit off as long as their physical needs are met, so don't worry about that. Just take a deep breath. Try and sleep. See what's what tomorrow... and keep posting here id you need to x

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