To hate weekends?

[millytrees]

I look forward to them and then the reality is they are long, lonely and unhappy. Then Monday comes round again.

It’s a waste of a life and I really don’t know what to do about it.

If you could, is there anything new you'd like to try op?

Sometimes I do to. I think of all the cool things we will do as a family then but often we won’t for a number of reasons. Time to lower the expectations I guess.

@millytrees have you got people around you or close by? How do you normally spend your weekends?

Completely alone. That’s why it’s so hard. And I know people will suggest things like meet-up groups and similar and I’ve tagged along in the past but it’s hard to get into and also can work out quite costly when you factor transport in.

How about joining a church group or sports club?

What about forcing yourself to go to the cinema alone and build up from there?

Is there a hobby you could take up? Find something to look forward to, like an activity or day out

Get an allotment. Always stuff to do on an allotment.

I have been to the cinema alone. If there’s something I really want to see then I’ll go. There isn’t at the moment (I’m not massively into films) but I would if I wanted to.

I’m not sporty or religious. I have considered going to church but I don’t know, they can be a bit worrying when you’re in a low place.

Id just find things you can do alone, if you sometimes have someone to go out with you that's a bonus.

I remember feeling lonely in the past so used to try go places there was other people so i was at least having small chit chat. s there any walking groups near you? I used to walk a route that was very popular in my town and meet the same people say hello etc. I also found this in the gym,swimming pool, supermarkets. Good luck. It’s not a nice feeling

Do you like the weeks becasuse you are at work and this have things to do and people to talk to?

If so you need to look for similar on the weekend - volunteer or similar?

@milly do you want to meet new people? I find it hard going and i can be quite introverted but also get lonely (I have kids and a partner too) - what about park run or something like that? Less pressure but friendly faces week in week out

I’m just in a dark place I think.

I can’t run the length of myself but in any event it’s just pointless - nothing works.

Join a gym? I have met loads of people at mine.

@milly you sound a bit depressed- this time of year can be harder too- what did you do for Xmas?

Have you any family? Have you friends or are they busy over the weekend? What kind of things do you enjoy?

Do you struggle with being alone or are you just bored?

So many things you can do alone:
a hobby , craft to sell or other
Studying

Or if you need company:
sport - no such thing as being "sport", you just need to find the right club and activity
Volunteering
Overtime at work
Weekend job if your contract allows it

Anything with a goal and progress to achieve, so you can look back and see what you have done.

There is lots of sport for people that are not sporty such as Nordic walking.

My local club is always asking for volunteers to marshall the weekly parkrun races. They don't run, they just help - involving standing in the cold and wet, which is quite impressive!

There are hundreds of things to do.

go to a coffee shop often someone on their own to talk to and besides which people watching can be interesting
churches are more friendly now you could visit a few until you find one you are happy with most have coffee after service so you will find lots of folk to chat to then
if all else fails wrap up and go for a nice walk you can make it a family thing or go alone walking always helps me think and clear my head

I've just joined the gym group where I live, for the classes. Going to one this morning.

Are you living very far from friends and family? Wondering if there’s something you can change about your situation.

It's really hard when you're feeling lonely and isolated to reach out OP, I get it. The problem is though, it's only you that can resolve things. I know it sounds frustrating to hear suggestions about things that you might do to change things. But again if you change nothing then you'll continue to be in this situation. I'm quite shy so I'd find unstructured events like meet up quite tough. I'm better off with scenarios that involve regular meetings but where you're there to do something specific: longer term courses, regular small exercise classes, volunteering etc.

One thing is that it's easier to find things to talk about if you're doing lots of things. So then it becomes easier to make friends and not be so isolated. Start with the idea you're just going to have people to chat to so as to take away the pressure of having to make friends and then take it from there.

What about volunteering - great way to meet people and feel useful. Many years ago I used to volunteer at a Saturday club for children with disabilities - gave their parents a break and the children some fun and chance to socialise. Was also very sociable for the volunteers. There are all sorts of volunteering opportunities, you can do something that interests you.
There's a website you can search for local opportunities on www.do-it.org