To hate weekends?

[millytrees]

I look forward to them and then the reality is they are long, lonely and unhappy. Then Monday comes round again.

It’s a waste of a life and I really don’t know what to do about it.

Zumba! I've just been to a class at my local gym and it's great! It's very friendly and fun. Hope you feel better about things soon OP x

Find somewhere to volunteer..it will make a huge difference.

I don't hate them as such but I'm usually always disappointed by how much I waste them, there's loads of nice things I could be doing but it gets to 4pm and I realise all I've done is a few dishes, drank a lot of coffee and sat on my arse

Go for a reiki massage. They are very uplifting. Try it.

At 38, have you had any long term relationships? I think, as you said, what you need us a partner. One piece of advice I would give is that nowadays women often get physically involved before they are emotionally ready and this makes them vulnerable.

I’m sorry you are feeling this way. Life can be lonely at times.
I once read that any break in your normal routine can give you the opportunity to meet new people.
For example walk / drive a different route home.
Change your supermarket.
Start going to the next town for lunch on the weekends.
When I was in this rut I used to jump in the car with my child and just drive without a destination in mind. Then we would just end up in another town and it was that little bit of spontaneity that brought a bit of excitement. Sometimes when your looking at the same faces it gets tedious.
I get you when you say the things your saying. When you are feeling down the attitude can be why bother as I’m feeling lonely.
The challenge is to push through that feeling.
It’s not easy at all.
The hardest bit is the trial and error part. Some things didn’t go right for me. The forcing myself to meet new people didn’t really work and kind of made me feel worse. I’m not saying this will be the case for you.
I met a lady on Meetup and we were going to gigs but she wasn’t a nice person and she proved that in the end. Then I met another girl but she was always snarling at me when I talked about my plans for the future. That’s a sore spot for me as all I really wanted was a genuine friend.
Then I joined a woman’s social meet up group and I enjoyed the meet ups but then I copped they set up a different WhatsApp group without me so I didn’t contact them after that.
Woman social groups don’t work for me. I tried that and it hurt me.
I found the running community and this is for me. No one is nosy about your life we are all just running and buzzing.
I do like my church and the people are lovely but I’m not trusting people so I don’t like to be asked questions about my life I like just going to something doing the activities then home. If you find what works for you it can take months but you will be surprised at what ends up being your passion in life.
Dating can pass the time if you don’t take it so seriously.
Also when at home instead of sitting on your phone turn it off for the whole weekend and busy yourself with a book or bath or skincare routine.
Do a clear out. Anything to busy your mind.

Could you get a dog?

Dogs are great, they get you out the house which raises your mood. They get you chatting to other dog walkers. They give you love & companionship and also purpose. They give you a fantastic welcome when you get home. They stop your house feeling empty. There are tons of dogs needing a home. There are loads of activities to do with them, that get you out meeting people, training classes and agility and dog fundays etc.

Could you pay for a dog walker to come in halfway through the day?

You can also run with them, you could start the couch to 5k plan then get out to parkrun and canni cross (I think it's called).

You probably feel it more at this time of year when its cold and dark outside. Better in the summer when you can go and mooch around the shops, or go for a walk and sit in the park. Chin up OP. Summer's on the way!

I would really recommend volunteering at Parkrun! No sport involved, SUCH a friendly crowd, the same faces every week so you get to know people, and at most runs the volunteers all go for coffee together afterwards. It will take a little while to make real friends but a bit of patience and persistence and it will work!

It took me about 6 months of it to make true friends there (although tbf I didn’t go every week). I ended up getting a DP out of it after 18 months! It didn’t last but we ended things amicably and Parkrun in general gave me something to talk about on dates with new guys - I now have a lovely new DP

For meeting people it’s best to change your routine up somehow - go to a new place on a new day where you will cross paths with people you wouldn’t otherwise. Don’t expect to have a BFF after week one and a DP after week 2, but it’s amazing what new connections you’ll make after a few months and where they will lead!

I'm probably not adding much here but, how about a routine? Once you get in to it, you will look forward to it a bit more. So, wake up, gym, shower...etc

I love the park run idea. Sounds great and if my DD weren't so little I'd do it myself. Maybe I will when she is older and DH is happy to do a whole day solo with her

OP I get it. I get you. 100%.

Almost no family myself, lots of friends but all coupled, many with kids, so weekends they are all doing family or couples stuff. I don't want to volunteer at weekends, as my job all week is for a charity and involves working with volunteers and I often do some volunteering there in the evening.

I did OLD but only had a couple of dates out of it. Been 7 years since I had a date. I'm 44 and have pretty much given up.

I have hobbies but they tend to be weekday evenings. People say join a new club and I've tried but most people turn up, do the activity (like badminton), then go home to their partner. There's no real social aspect.

I would like to travel but I don't want to do yet more time on my own. I want to share things with someone. I'm out and about a lot but weekends are difficult and I'm fed up coming home to an empty flat every night, walking up alone every morning.

So I get it. I try not to let it get me down but some days I need to wallow.

Please don’t give up shatners
Get back dating!! You will meet someone if you do but won’t if you dont.

Bubba Thanks but OLD isn't for me. Oddly enough, I know so many people who have tried it but only one marriage (rocky within two years) and one LTR. Everyone else has either had lots of second dates but nothing more or something that fizzled out in three months. I do think it's better odds if you live in a large city (semi-rural here) as I have a very attractive, interesting friend who has now been single 11 years and she equally tried OLD (all sites) over a long time.

My main issue is I'm childfree and have never wanted children or to be a stepparent. When you're a childfree man who becomes single at 36, it's very, very hard to find potential dates in their 30s who don't also want or have kids, let alone a relationship. It is what it is, I just have to accept it. My aforementioned friend wants kids and so much more choice unlike my needle in haystack so if she and others can't...

I've waffled, this is someone else's thread not mine. I just wanted to express solidarity and empathy with OP

There are loads of single friendly adventure holidays...

www.goway.com/trips/typ/single-friendly/

Back when I was backpacking more than 50% of people were solo travellers, but there are also organised holidays like the ones in the link. Really there is no reason not to do stuff just because you're single, especially if you've no dependents.

I'd like to go, but I've got a dp! I feel discriminated against!

I work the majority of weekends so now find them precious. Walking is amazing if you can download some tunes and get outside. I struggle with mental health but you still need to try. Hope you find some peace x