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Relative pestering my neighbour

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Hefffalump · 05/01/2019 17:22

I've got an aunt who's very lovely but quite eccentric and doesn't always respect boundaries of the social norm. No learning difficulties just a very extrovert personality.

I've got a pleasant neighbour who's always polite and makes conversation with my few family members when they visit and they bump into one another, the usual hello good morning how are you type of thing - they are by no means friends just polite acquaintances.

Aunt likes to get out and about but doesn't drive, neighbour does. Aunt has began suggesting she asks neighbour to take her places she'd like to go for days out "because he's a nice man and he drives" and she'd throw him some money for petrol, or to come and do some DIY at her flat.

We had a bit of a disagreement because I firmly asked her not to pester my neighbours for favours. He gave her a lift home once to be kind as it was getting late, but now she thinks he's a friend who she can ask to do things for her. Lifts, odd jobs etc.

Aibu to be mortified and think this reflects badly on me?

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Maelstrop · 05/01/2019 17:32

Is he married? Is she?! Does he want her attention and to be friends? You need to give us more info. If he isn't interested, then he can tell your aunt, he's an adult.

Hefffalump · 05/01/2019 17:41

He's in a relationship, she isn't. She's not interested in him in that way anyway as she's alot older.

Hes not looking to be her friend he only says hello to be polite as he's friendly with everybody. It's like she's taken his small talk as an indication that he's somebody who'll be happy to ferry her about and do her favours. It's all a bit CF and bizarre and she has form for latching on to people.

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QOD · 05/01/2019 18:53

Oh god my mums like this. If she meets my friends she then refers to them as our friends
I have kept her away from a whole section of my life

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