To have spoken to manager at nursery

[KimchiLaLa]

DD, 2, is in the baby room at nursery which has 4 key workers in it. We are generally happy with the nursery, few niggles but it's fine.

There is one key worker in her room who always gives me "looks" when I'm in there. I'm a sensitive person that hates this sort of thing and I always found myself wondering what I've done. I know I've stepped in by mistake with shoes on before and she has glared at me, but I've taken them off asap. She is not DD's specific key worker - just a girl in the room.

DD only goes once a week ATM due to space. They are giving her more days as they become available. So I'm only there once a week.

Today I mentioned to the manager the attitude of the keyworker makes me feel a bit uncomfortable and I don't want that unsettling DD. I told her I didn't want to make this a big deal, but asked - is there something I'm doing wrong? I feel like I probably shouldn't have asked her. But Today, i dropped her off again and asked if they could give her a particular item on the menu to give her for lunch if ok. It was the normal time and we weren't late. She glared at me and said "I'll see if we have any left." In a weird tone. That was it. So I thought, are we late? Should I have asked in a different way?

What makes me think she doesn't like me is that she is more than warm to other mum's and their kids. I've seen it.

What do you think? I feel like I've probably been a bit hasty but I'm sick of feeling annoyed and frustrated every time I leave.

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Can I just say that no matter how horrible a parent is no teacher/ nursery worker I know would take it out on the child.

As to weird looks, I think you need to let it go. You really shouldn't gave spoken to the manager about something so petty as you'll have made matters worse.

Now that is true, OP. Greenfingers, it isn't the same at all, it's time to grow up away from the playground. In the professional world, you're supposed to be able to work with paying clients, respond to their requests with politeness not exasperation.

It is quite annoying to hear so many people are dismissing the OP's 6th sense about this staff member. I used to do a role that required me to watch out for people and behaviours to protect children in the setting and the one rule my manager had was "trust your gut instinct"
Everywhere in London stations you see "if in doubt, report it"

So why are we dismissing the OP like this?

If my manager spoke to me about a look I gave a client I would be very pissed off. As now you have passed your insecurity onto me to deal with. So I would have to be the one to go out of my way to be cheerful and trying not to do the look at you. Strange.

@KimchiLaLa you posted in an open forum called 'Am I Being Unreasonable' asking What do you think? I feel like I've probably been a bit hasty

I suggested that yes you were being unreasonable. I apologise for voicing my opinion. Anyway, I'm off to 'chill out'.

"I didn't position it as a complaint - more "is there something I can do better because clearly something is wrong"..."

@KimchiLaLa - this sounds like a very sensible and non-confrontational approach. You weren't complaining about the nursery worker, you were asking if you had done something you needed to change or do differently. I hope you get a similarly sensible response from the nursery.

jessstan2 "Also remember that people who work in nurseries are not in the top league, they haven't learned how not to gurn or use body language"

I can't tell if you are being sarcastic or if you're actually as much as a knob as this post makes you sound? Care to clarify?

OP why didn't you speak directly to the person involved instead of basically saying to her manager "Miss, she looked at me funny" like a 6 year old would do? You are both adults.

If it bothers you that much, why not speak to girl directly? You may find that it will clear the air, if there is anything to clear in the first place.

Did they say anything when you did pick up today?