To betray my friend..?

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I'll try and keep this as short as possible... I wrote a post about this situation the other day.
So I've always had 2 close friends, friend 1 and friend 2. Friend 1 had a serious DP who she lived with, unmarried, no children, and he was always close to me and friend 2 as well.
Friend 1 and friend 2 have both been really good friends - but friend 2 has been there an unimaginable amount for me but I've got a lot closer with friend 1.
Now, mid last year, friend 1's DP left her out of the blue for friend 2. She is still angry 7 months later, and I inevitably chose sides and due to the weight of the situation, haven't spoke to friend 2 since.
I got in contact with friend 2 last week as I felt I owed it to her after how much and how selflessly she's been there for me for 10+ years. I haven't told friend 1 and she'd be angry if she knew I'd be in touch.

Now, I've been going through a really hard time lately and friend 1 has hyped me up about a weekend out (rare for me) this weekend. She's now started making a few excuses about why she might not be able to come. She knows how much I needed it and she's still being a bit flaky regarding plans.
Would it be really bad to contact friend 2 to come and have a night with me to cheer me up if friend 1 cancels? Friend 1 would be livid if she knew I'd gone out with her but she also knows how much I need a night to let my hair down and is still making excuses.

Hope this makes sense!! It was a bit confusing to write so well done if you made it to the end!

I found out that my ‘best friend’ had been socialising behind my back with my ex and the woman he cheated on me with. The betrayal of that lie by omission was worse than him cheating on me in the first place and we hardly speak now.

Friend 1 is a bit of a shit friend. She’s self-absorbed.

When it was the three of you, I bet when Friend 2 annoyed you or made you feel let down you reached to friend 2? Which is perhaps why you feel like doing it now.

Friend 1 won’t forgive you if you rekindle things with friend 2. But maybe 2 is a better bet than 1. However 2 might not want you back.

i bet when Friend 1* annoyed you, that should say!

Well I do think Friend 2 shafted Friend 1 majorly, and that's an understatement. She is a snake in the grass no matter how ooc that was. Friend 1 is being herself, you know the limits of that friendship. She's flakey and she's not as supportive as you would be or would like her to be.

I think as awful as it is, you need to mourn the loss of the friendship group and focus on other friends or find new ones. That sounds so flippant, but the reality is the lovely group you had has been broken up by the shittiness of Friend 2 and the DP. They knew the hurt it would cause. They did it anyway. They broke your group up and broke Friend 1's heart, in the process, yours too.

I would never have anything to do with “friend” 2 ever again. They have shown how they deal with their “friends”. How could you be sure they never do to you what they did to friend 1 or do to anyone else. Morally corrupt and I wouldn’t be able to stomach them. I’m sure I’ll be in the minority but what they did to their “friend” is horrid. Shows how loyal they are to their “friends”.

Watch out it will be your DP she's after next time. I don't think you can really call yourself a friend