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To find it creepy when DH touches my breasts since bfeeding

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AbitOfaCrummyMummy · 02/01/2019 22:58

Am I the only one thats found this?

It makes me really uncomfortable if DH goes near em. Eventhough DS (15m) is down to one feed before bed.

Somehow bfeeding has ruined that part of sex..which is worrying as I am only half as keen as DH anyway

Or am I wierd Blush

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AbitOfaCrummyMummy · 02/01/2019 22:59

Oh what a strikethrough fail

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LavaLampLover · 02/01/2019 22:59

I never liked mine being touched so I can't say, really. But I did develop a sense of awe for my boobs for the first time ever, when I managed to successfully boobfeed

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AbitOfaCrummyMummy · 02/01/2019 23:00

Haha bfeeding is a bit of a marvel by all accounts

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OnceUponAGiraffe · 02/01/2019 23:01

Yeah, when breastfeeding (it has been three and a bit years of my life so far) breasts are not for sexual enjoyment. It’s hard enough switching from mum to sexual being without their dual purpose being so obviously pointed out...

NoSquirrels · 02/01/2019 23:01

Not just you! I found it was very closely related to the feeling of just being all "touched out" by the sheer physical nature of having tiny children.

But it goes away - hooray! Grin So just a temporary problem. Divert attention elsewhere, kindly, if you don't like it right now.

DaisyChainsForever · 02/01/2019 23:02

I have pretty much no feeling left in mine after 14 months of breastfeeding, so when dp touches them it feels very 'alien' now.

Owlettele · 02/01/2019 23:02

Yep. Breastfed 2. My 17 month old is literally weaning off as we speak.....but yeah....for me they are my children's and for nourishment. I kind of think completely differently about them now and so when she touches them I am cringey!! 🤦🏼‍♀️

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AbitOfaCrummyMummy · 02/01/2019 23:03

Thank god. I push my DH away (gently) but it is super wierd. All of a sudden it seems wrong. Like very very wrong. Confused

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Owlettele · 02/01/2019 23:03

When dh touches them

HettieBettie · 02/01/2019 23:03

Nope bit leaky, not for that purpose right now etc.

Don’t worry few months after you stop it won’t be weird. You’ll have sort of forgotten their other job x

ThereWillBeAdequateFood · 02/01/2019 23:03

Ooh this happened to me. Even years after I finished breastfeeding I couldn’t stand having my breasts touched. Everything else to do with sex was fine but I had to ban him from touching my breasts.

Dh did some googling - apparently it’s relatively common.

Twitwooo · 02/01/2019 23:04

Same, sometimes I would try to let him get away with it because I feel bad for him but not the nipples... if he goes anywhere near the nipples I actually feel like I get in a rage! 22 months here

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AbitOfaCrummyMummy · 02/01/2019 23:05

Its such a shame as mine are like 3x bigger now too. The bloody irony that you wave these bad boys infront of OH and you swot them away like flies...😂

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AbitOfaCrummyMummy · 02/01/2019 23:07

@Twitwooo oh yeah it is like rage. So wierd!

Well I am glad I am normal!

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jessstan2 · 02/01/2019 23:08

I think what you are feeling is quite natural while you're breastfeeding. Explain it to your husband, if you don't he won't know, he's not psychic. I remember if I told my husband how I felt about this or that after having a baby, he understood and was extremely considerate.

Your husband will be fine and your boobs won't be a no go area forever.

(I have also heard the opposite from a couple of women who liked breast feeding their husbands! It takes all sorts. I think my husband would have run a mile at the very thought, we'll never know now, far too late :-)).

Rednaxela · 02/01/2019 23:08

DH is not permitted even a nudge of the boobs. The best he gets is a longing glance while I'm getting dressed!! And this is me 6m after stopping bf..

NotUmbongoUnchained · 02/01/2019 23:09

It’s one of the reasons I didn’t breast feed!

userschmoozer · 02/01/2019 23:09

I had the same reaction, it did wear off after I stopped breastfeeding.

StoppinBy · 02/01/2019 23:41

My youngest is now 19mnth and still feeding, I can tolerate (and sometimes even enjoy) the fondling now but once he tries to put his mouth anywhere near them it makes me want to shove him off and end all sexy time haha.

I also need to shower right away if he touches them as I don't want my LO going near them until they are washed clean from being groped lol.

Kirstiesmith1234 · 02/01/2019 23:52

Feeling exactly the same as you! It creeps me out the thought of him touching them. Glad I’m not the only one 😀

Twitwooo · 02/01/2019 23:55

@AbitOfaCrummyMummy nature is cruel. I think bfing just turns us into the guardians of our boobs for our babies. It just makes it feel wrong and dirty and just plain aggravating for anyone ( or thing actually for a while... I remember trying to brave it and not wear a bra (too) early on and just the sensation of anything brushing against it made me angry Confused) to try and get in on it !

Openup41 · 02/01/2019 23:58

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POllOcKs · 03/01/2019 00:04

I never had this problem.Any stimulus and orgasms certainly made my boobs leak milk so my husband at the time kept his hands off until breast feeding stopped.

BeanTownNancy · 03/01/2019 00:49

I didn't much like it when I was breastfeeding but enjoyed it again after I stopped... And now I am pregnant again and sometimes find it too painful if he's not gentle so might be heading back towards "nopesville" soon.

LucyAutumn · 03/01/2019 01:40

I feel like this too, I'm so pleased I'm not the only one!

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