Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Flip

1 2 3 4 5 6 7

Original poster

To tell these smokers on the next sunbed to not smoke

155 replies

Loveweekends10 · 02/01/2019 14:24

Have been relaxing on my sunbed ( on holiday abroad). Couple just arrived. Sat down on next sunbed and have been chain smoking since. Im asthmatic- do I tell them? Or do I move? Why do they think this is ok when all the public health warnings tell them it’s not?

OP posts:

twosoups1972 · 02/01/2019 15:38

but they’re not doing anything wrong

Yes they are. What is it with smokers that they don't have any consideration for anyone else??

Bluntness100 · 02/01/2019 15:39

They are outside, and unless there is a restriction then you need to move. As you said, the world doesn't revolve round you.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 02/01/2019 15:40

They're not doing anything illegal rather than wrong. If there's no sign saying smoking isn't allowed they are within their rights to smoke but I agree it would be more considerate to do it where there's not other guests sat nearby.

Did you move OP?

Dimsumlosesum · 02/01/2019 15:41

If it's permitted you have to move if you want. You can't tell them not to do something they're allowed to do....even though it's totally dickish of them to inflict their stinking smoke on other people.

79andnotout · 02/01/2019 15:42

All the chain smokers I know (dear mother included) pride themselves on not giving a fuck about anyone else. They likelihood is they would love a fight about it.

Just move, it's not worth it.

NailsNeedDoing · 02/01/2019 15:43

They really aren't doing anything wrong, it's just one of those things that comes along with being in a space that's shred by lots of other people.

The smokers might not want to have to listen to children screeching in the pool, or smell other people's food being served, but it's not wrong for people to do those things.

Bluntness100 · 02/01/2019 16:13

The smokers might not want to have to listen to children screeching in the pool, or smell other people's food being served, but it's not wrong for people to do those things

Well said. I personally can't stand the smell of someone sitting eating some crap on their sunbed, or having to listen to their little over excited darlings dive bombing thr pool but it's allowed. They are doing nothing wrong. Just like smoking outside isn't wrong. That's really the way it works. I don't get to tell people to not eat on their sunbeds. I don't get to tell them to keep their kids on a leash. And the op doesn't get to tell people not to smoke.

It is what it is.

Butcowsdontgetmarried · 02/01/2019 16:19

The pretend “your smoke wafted generally in my direction and I am passively aggressively pretending you have harmed me” cough makes almost any smoker want to blow smoke right at you, FYI.
I understand some people don’t smoke, if my smoke goes near you I’m sorry and I will try to prevent it happening again if you speak to me in a reasonable manner. But not the OTT cough, have some self respect.

WhentheRabbitsWentWild · 02/01/2019 16:36

Way to fucking generalise

What is it with smokers ?

They have no consideration blah blah

Some of us DO have consideration !!

FuckingYuleLog · 02/01/2019 16:39

If smoking is allowed in that area then you need to move. I don’t think you should ask them to move for your benefit when you can move yourself. They are using the area for one of its intended purposes. If they lit up in the hotel restaurant then yes you should ask them to go outside.

NameChangeNugget · 02/01/2019 16:44

YABU, if they’re not breaking a local law.

Totally get your point though OP.

Topseyt · 02/01/2019 16:45

Unless there is a specific "no smoking" restriction in that particular area then there isn't anything you can do unless you move sunbeds yourself.

I am not a smoker, though I grew up with parents who were heavy smokers. I get that it is annoying, but if they are in an area where smoking isn't banned then you can't ask them not to.

SillySallySingsSongs · 02/01/2019 16:49

What is it with smokers that they don't have any consideration for anyone else??

What is it with non smokers who make pathetic sweeping generalisations?

MaggieFS · 02/01/2019 16:50

I hate this, it's like sitting outside a pub or restaurant trying to eat when people are smoking nearby. Nowt you can do but move, sadly.

Maelstrop · 02/01/2019 16:53

Some smokers really don't give a fuck and I'd rather not risk a confrontation given you might run into them again.

My not so dm likes to go to bed at 7, fine, she can go when she wants (gets incoherent pissed) but then gets up at 5 to smoke downstairs, never closing the kitchen door so I was woken up at the crack by smoke. She then sparked up just as I'd served food, 2 feet away from her then chain smoked all day when family were coming round for an event, including very small children. I'm aware iabvu, but seriously, I'm thinking I'll stay in a hotel next time. I can't bear it.

Sorry to derail your thread, OP, this has been annoying me since last week.

AGHHHH · 02/01/2019 16:55

What is it with smokers that they don't have any consideration for anyone else??

This. :( So many of them are really inconsiderate.

Not all though.

Cuntcuntcunt · 02/01/2019 16:55

Are they legally permitted to smoke in the area where they were smoking?

AGHHHH · 02/01/2019 16:57

What is it with non smokers who make pathetic sweeping generalisations?

It's not pathetic though is it? It holds a lot of truth.

WorraLiberty · 02/01/2019 16:58

Obviously Im aware the entire world does not revolve around me. There is really no need to be rude.

To be fair, your thread title makes you sound a bit rude too.

PhilomenaNewYearButterfly · 02/01/2019 17:02

My eldest has cystic fibrosis. When he was 5 he walked into the school janitor's office (long before the smoking ban) and said "you're not supposed to smoke near me!" This is like that. You need to move.

Lizzie48 · 02/01/2019 17:04

Quite plainly, if smoking is allowed in the hotel grounds then you'll just have to move. I feel the same way about beer gardens in summer; some of them have great playgrounds for kids and I would love nothing better than to sit out there with my meal and glass of wine; but smoke is very off-putting sometimes. However, obviously I just have to suck it up; they're completely within their rights to smoke there.

AngeloMysterioso · 02/01/2019 17:05

Just move. You're the one with the issue. The entire world does not recolve around you

Well apparently the world revolves around smokers, seeing as non smokers can’t even fucking be outside without having to breathe in their shit or move when they come near us.

DontCallMeCharlotte · 02/01/2019 17:07

There does seem to be a presumption amongst smokers that if it does not say no smoking them they can

Funny that.

gamerchick · 02/01/2019 17:09

Aw the annual smoking thread. How I've missed thee

Bluntness100 · 02/01/2019 17:11

What is it with smokers that they don't have any consideration for anyone else??

But this can be said about anyone. For example those who like to sit and eat pizza or chips on their sunbeds and others have to endure the stench. That's inconsiderate. The ones who chose to get loud after a few cocktails. That's inconsiderate. The ones who let their kids run around screaming and dive bombing the pool. That's inconsiderate. The out of shape old dude in his speedos subjecting you to the outline view of his genitalia. That's inconsiderate. The lady in the thong bending over in front of you, showing you her breakfast you'd rather not see, that's inconsiderate, the person who lies there farting and burping, that's inconsiderate, the ones who have loud conversations, shouting over to each other, that's inconsiderate, the list is endless.

Inconsiderate is actually not accepting that in an open space we need to tolerate others and their behaviour. Even if we don't like it and if we don't like it to then move away but accept their right to do as they are doing.

Flip

1 2 3 4 5 6 7

Swipe left for the next trending thread