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To want my own bathroom

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PooleySpooley · 01/01/2019 20:50

Just went to the loo.

14 yr old DSD has been in there before me.

Walked in and got wet feet as she’s had a shower and soaked the floor. She has been asked to clean up after herself. Grabbed her towel (as she is leaving tomorrow and it’ll be washed anyway) to soak up the water. It’s been put over the bannister to dry but it’s covered in blood. She knows just to say and its fine.

I then sit on the loo and the loo roll is empty but the roll still on the holder.

There are 5000 bog rolls in the cupboard in the bathroom they know this.

Beside the empty bin there is a tampon applicator. DSD has been asked twice this week to make sure they go in the bin.

In the bin there is a ditched sanitary towel not folded with its contents all to see. There are bags in the drawer 2 cm from the bin to place these in.

FFS Shock

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Oldraver · 01/01/2019 20:51

Have you asked to put it right ?

TroubledMuchly · 01/01/2019 20:54

I'd be asking her to come back in and clean up. Point out her period pad and be like really, did I have to see that?

PhilomenaNewYearButterfly · 01/01/2019 20:55

Yuck.

mrsjg · 01/01/2019 20:59

Get her back in and clean it up and explain to her that everyone doesn't need to see proof that's she's on her period.

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PooleySpooley · 01/01/2019 20:59

Yes I have asked nicely and nicely and nicely and now tbh I am fucking fuming.

Clearly IRL I will continue to be nice.

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madmum5811 · 01/01/2019 21:01

Take pictures and tell her you will share with her friends.

WWWWicked · 01/01/2019 21:04

Maybe, as you’ve asked and asked and asked nicely, and she’s ignored you... you need to take the nuclear option.

I did this with DS and his habit of leaving shit skid marks in the toilet - stopped asking nicely and went ballistic. Worked a treat.

Mwnci123 · 01/01/2019 21:07

She's being a bit grubby but not heinously so for a teenager, IMO. Is it possible she was going to double back once she was dry and dressed to sort it out?

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PooleySpooley · 01/01/2019 21:08

I have never shouted at her and I wouldn’t. I love her to bits but ffs the whole world does not need to know she has her period Hmm.

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PooleySpooley · 01/01/2019 21:09

Mwnci123

No she was in her PJs watching TV.

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GreenDinosaur · 01/01/2019 21:10

Threaten to take photos and put them on Facebook or Instagram or whatever the kids use. That's grim.

CrispbuttyNo1 · 01/01/2019 21:10

Maybe it’s time you did shout at her. The gentle approach clearly isn’t working.

comebacksoonsusan · 01/01/2019 21:16

I wouldn't be nice about that. I wouldnt post pictures online; I'm not psychotic, but I'd be pretty annoyed.

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PooleySpooley · 01/01/2019 21:16

Would people really do that?

I would never do that to her Sad

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WWWWicked · 01/01/2019 21:17

Oh well, carry on being nice and cleaning up her period after her then.

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PooleySpooley · 01/01/2019 21:19

I think there are other things I can do than humiliate her online.

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comebacksoonsusan · 01/01/2019 21:22

Go and get her and explain that it's disappointing to go to a bathroom and it be a mess. Tell her to clean it up. Be firm and clear.

CantWaitToRetire · 01/01/2019 21:23

Don’t do the photos, that’s really horrid idea, but stop being nicey nicey and get tough that this is not at all acceptable. Turn the TV off and demand she return to the bathroom right now and tidy up her mess.

TotallyWipedout · 01/01/2019 21:27

OP, all I can say is that your DSD is the twin of my DD (also 14).

I find the nice approach achieves stuff all. However, I'm not a shouter and hate anyone shouting, full stop, so am not going to down that route. But I'll be interested to see what others suggest. My current favourite from this thread is photographing it and threatening to put it on the internet. Grin

TotallyWipedout · 01/01/2019 21:28

Sorry - crossed posts. I wouldn't seriously put anything online, but the idea made me laugh.

I am left fuming by my DD's bathroom habits.

trickyex · 01/01/2019 21:29

I agree, turn off the tv and march her to the bathroom to clear up and hover over her until its done. The photo idea seems like bullying to me.

GreenDinosaur · 01/01/2019 21:29

Obviously don't do it but a threat might make her think about how gross she's being and how she wouldn't want people to know.

...Unless you think she really doesn't give a shit and you'd have to follow through, then I'd say she has issues.

Most teenagers are just thoughtless and lazy with stuff like that and need a metaphorical kick up the arse.

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PooleySpooley · 01/01/2019 21:29

There is often blood all over the loo seat too Sad

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PooleySpooley · 01/01/2019 21:33

I have asked her and repeated how horrid it is to ditch the applicator on the floor for me or her dad to have to pick up.

They never come with pads or anything and I always make sure we have a draw full of the teen pads and tampons that lilet do so it’s really pissing me off the respect is not both ways.

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missmouse101 · 01/01/2019 21:35

This is my daily life with my 15 yo son. (Swop period stuff for toilet skid marks...) I HATE it.

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