To be annoyed that DH won’t let me regift

[Dongdingdong]

My SIL bought DH and me an ornament for Christmas. It’s completely not my style and doesn’t fit in with the type of furnishings we have in the house either.

We have a friend who’s getting married this month and we need to buy her a wedding gift. I’d like to regift this ornament as it’s very her (she collects similar items) but DH has flatly refused.

I’m annoyed about it as we have very little spare cash at the moment due to Christmas. Not regifting means we’ll have to spend £60 we don’t have on a similar gift for our friend, while having an ornament I don’t particularly like on display in our home. AIBU to be annoyed at DH?

Wrap it without saying anything, then if the sister ever asks just say it broke. Put it out of sight so he forgets about it, then nearer to the wedding say oh i already got her something she asked for.

It was a joint gift so you cant just do what you want - your OH has a view too. I personally think re-gifting is the height of rudeness and would not do it - my ex-MIL used to blatantly do it to me all the time and it makes you feel shit - like they don't care enough to spend any money on you. Give it to charity and support a worthy cause or let it meet with an accident!

I hate receiving regifted things.

Even if it was something you really loved?

I don’t like regifting either. It just seems thoughtless to me, from both a giving and receiving point of view.

Just to add another spanner in the works if you put it on display when she visits she may take that as a sign you love it and buy you more for future gifts. What you’ve said about your friend suggests they are collectible - you could end up with a shelf full 😂

What if your friend really hates them and was given one by her mil/sil/etc and had to pretend she liked it and then got given them forever more?

I hate receiving regifted things

Me too. It's like the person can't be bothered to go to any effort and just rewraps something they already own and passes it off as a gift.

I'll happily pass things on as don't like waste but would offer it to the person stating truthfully it's not my taste etc but thought they may like it. We do that amongst friends before we charity shop items.

yabbers
How can it be something I really want?
Seriously.
Read my thread.
We often pay for days out to specific events. This is what I have bought dd for her birthday, she did the same for me. How can that be a regifted gift.

(If you think it's not appropriate to give people gifts of ornaments in case you get their taste wrong why would you want to give your friend the same as a wedding present?)

she's certainly got a point with the above statement

Re-gift and tell her it broke if she asks.

I must make sure I remember to get it out each time before she arrives

Why is it your job to do this? Your DH wants to hang on to it/not offend his sister - he should be doing it. Wonder how important it'll be to not offend his sister when he has to be responsible for remembering to do this...