To think it's not possible to make friends as an adult

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My new years resolution is to make new friends as I currently have none, nada. Its getting me down and lonely, and spiteful when OH goes out with his

I don't have kids so couldn't meet anyone through them, so my question is how? Everyone seems to have friends from years back and a group to socialise in but I just don't. I've never been good at slotting in and just can't seem to make friends with women. Where do I start?

@nottakingthisanymore Yeah I'm going to bear that in mind, I listened to a good podcast type thing the other day that said you won't make friends overnight but every person who is kind, open or chatty back etc is a candidate a to keep at it.

I'm glad some of you have found success!

@Fullofregrets33 Noo don't be so pessimistic, there's always a chance and this thread has shown that there are enough people in the same boat. Let's start our new social butterfly lives together, but one step at a time haha

@cherrytree63 Aw that's fab I'm happy for you although yes weird place but take what you get!

I've seen the dog walking thing I think I signed up but I'm out with someone elses horses so often I didn't fancy more fresh air at the time

I'm feeling much more hopeful and more over the 'why would anyone want to be MY friend' crap, so shall press on. Thus far I have spoken to a lady about riding her horse on a busy social yard where they regularly do activities, I meet her at the weekend. I will pay for a month pass at my studio and go to regular classes, the instructors seem to remember me and are friendly so will keep at at that. I've also found an aerial/circusy type class that does silks/hooo/trapeze etc so I'm gonna give that a go! Terrified

I am also in the same position but gave vowed to push myself to meet new people this year. I moved away from childhood friends years ago still in touch but not active "lets grab lunch" kind of friends. Ive drifted from.old work colleague as life has moved on and where i work is very clicky.

There is an app called vina which is like tinder to find female friends. Also, see if your city has a GirlCrew, mine does, on facebook. They do things like walks, coffee pub quizzes, cinema trips. They’re usually very welcoming.

@MickHucknallspinkpancakes

Best name on here by miles. Have you ever given a display to diners through the large window of the upmarket restaurant?

This was one of my resolutions too. I also struggle with getting past the initial acquaintance phase. People just don't seem to like me for a reason I'm yet to work out!!

I would agree with the hobbies suggestions but how do you go from being an acquaintance to actually having a decent chat?

Accepting every invitation, keeping the conversation moving, repetition I guess seeing them every week, and I suppose the dreaded asking them to do something with you outside of the hobby... That's what people have suggested