To be f***** off by DP food waste?!?!?

[MrDarcyWillBeMine]

So I’ll start by saying this- DP is generally wonderful! Could not knock him for anything else.

However, last night he treated himself to a pizza meal (expensive branded one)

Comes with two large pizzas and sides! (Not a rare occurance - about 1-2 a month but he’s otherwise very healthy)

I had 1 piece as not a huge fan!
General agreement is that he stash uneaten leftovers in the fridge to snack on for a few days! He’s really bad for not doing this!

I usually do it but as he’s been on nights I went to bed long before him and said ‘make sure you fridge the leftovers’

Came down this morning to an entire large pizza and 1/4 of another large pizza
A- uncovered
B- on the coffee table
😡

I told him last night that our resolution this year would be to cut down on waste! I HATE IT! I grew up (happy) but poor, in a house that didn’t waste food!

Yes I occasionally throw away old bits of half used food/ scraps from plates and any peels/left over fruit/veg gets thrown on the garden - but DP grew up rather wealthy and (in my opinion) a bit wasteful!

Whole pizzas!!! (3 tubs of humous got thrown this morning too as way over date) when we met he would actively ignore fridge food that needed eating in favour of take aways and then throw the fridge food out as was too out of date (he will eat things a few days over but not more than a week) he has got ALOT better since then!

Just before Christmas I had to throw a full £7 MnS lasagne as he kept saying he was going to have it the next day (so I didn’t eat it) then finally said ‘no it’s too far gone now bin it’

😡😡😡

It’s SUCH A WASTE!!! He doesn’t seem to feel it like I do!

AIBU to be annoyed by this?

Kittened pizza is the best kind. Yabu.

Why doesn't he just order less food? None to potentially waste then.

I wouldn't eat it, but if we have leftover pizza it always gets put in the fridge and eaten next day. Why did he buy so much anyway?

I prefer it out of the fridge, our fridge makes it too hard. But we hide ours in the microwave from the cats, and it sounds like the boxes were wide open? In which case I'd be wary, not cos of the kitten stealing a bit so much as the kitten walking all over it.

YABU it's new year, just let him enjoy himself!

Must be a joy to live with someone being overbearing and sanctimonious over a pizza once every few months.

I just can't understand ordering two whole pizzas and sides for one person? Surely he knew he'd never eat both - in which case why order it? If you ordered it planning on keeping one for tomorrow then you'd prioritise putting it in the fridge? How lazy do you have to be not to move the (unless you live in some huge stately home with the kitchen on another floor) few feet from the sofa to the fridge? I'd be fuming too OP but can't see how you can change such a mindset - it's just completely illogical to how most normal people think, surely?

You could try saying 'Look these £30 pizza deals you get twice a month are costing us £700 a year, when we could get xxx for that,' or 'which is our mortage for one month' or whatever, but tbh as long as you've got the money for other things and he's not suffering from the money waste then it doesn't sound like he'd be that bothered.

Yes to too many exclamation marks 🙂

I hate food waste too although I still would've eaten the pizza probably. Then again, we don't have our heating on overnight.

Having said that OP I told him last night that our resolution this year would be to cut down on waste!

I'm pretty sure that's not how new year's resolutions work...

Yes, you can't make resolutions on his behalf . Only yourself.

Sellotape your food shop receipt(s) each week to the fridge? Highlight everything that's been thrown so he can see the proportion of food thrown v food actually eaten in the week.

I love the idea about keeping track of the wasted cost on the front of the fridge.

In fairness if it were just a pizza every couple of months I honestly would let it go - but it’s not! It’s packets of fresh pasta, entire lasagnas, MnS sausages, multiple packs of hummus!

I estimate this year we’ll have thrown out over £150 in unopened unused food! Probably closer to £200 and I just think - growing up £200 worth of food would have fed us for months!

Why should he be able to waste all that money? Why not just get one pizza? Presumably if he has that amount of cash to spare he can put it into the family/household budget rather than be so greedy as to order too much food then just let it spoil?

As for this I think you need to stop nagging him and just put the things away/freeze them yourself - OP did say this was her partner, not her child.

We are lucky enough to earn 6 figures and have a couple of grand disposable income each month (although currently saving for new home/ holiday) but money not being an issue doesn’t make me less fussed about waste! Or ‘tight’ - id just rather donate £200 to a food bank than throw it in our bin! We’re mid twenties/ early thirties young couple without kids and I feel like if we don’t get into good habits and be responsible now it’s only going to get worse!

I can't read your posts without thinking you are just really excited about it all.

unclench, it was NYE. You don't get to make his resolutions.

We used to be terrible for top-up shops and wasting food, but now I have one food delivery a week and most weeks manage to get down to almost a bare fridge the night before.

The key is to buy far less than you think you need.

PS - if my dog ate a pizza he'd be very ill indeed, I wonder what the effect of salted meat is on a kitten?

Actual money in a jar then.

Takeaway pizza left over from the night before?
Had that loads of times as a breakfast over the years
Even unrefrigerated. Wouldn't if was over a day or two though.
Be reet. Gerrit down yer neck

Crikey OP. Unclench. I could not live with such a controlling person.

I'm not sure you can make him care if he doesn't already. I hate waste too but you are being a tad dramatic imo. Firstly, I wouldn't chuck the pizza from last night, and secondly why not take charge of the planning and shopping yourself if you deem him so incompetent with it all? If you don't want to do that then maybe you need to work out if a person who gives you such rage over everyday life is someone you want to be with or whether it's all going to lead you exclamation crazy

I'm now thinking we must be dicing with death on a regular basis. I've literally never put leftover pizza in the fridge before reheating it the following day. I've even eaten it cold out of the box.

I don’t think you two are well matched
It’ll end in tears, so leave him now with his pizza

I don't enjoy pizza the next morning; I'd rather not have the same meal a few days running if I'm honest, and I'm pretty bad at remembering to keep the leftovers somewhere... so I don't over order. Infect, as DP isn't a big pizza person, we don't really have pizza anymore because it means there's either pressure for me to eat more than I should or unwanted leftovers that get left in the fridge for a week.

You can't really make him commit to less waste - it's a meaningless commitment if he's not really going to do it - but it's entirely reasonable to ask him to stop massively over ordering...