Is this rude?!?!?

[sayitisntsojo]

I made arrangements to see a friend today. She said she would be here after lunch. She isn't here and it is nearly 5!!

Yes it is rude. Is she coming to stay?

Have you phoned her?

Provided no genuine emergency on her part, and she hasn't let you know - yes, v rude.

As above, have you called her?

Yes rude!

She had to pop somewhere on the way. My DS has been waiting all day. Just got a text to say they gave finally finished shopping and will bring the boys for an hour

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Yes, after lunch does not mean late afternoon / evening (except maybe to her it does).

Sounds like they need to be more precise with their ETA's or they need to be better at planning. Very rude and I'd be annoyed too!!

Well that is after lunch so not rude.

If you answer that door you are the biggest mug on the planet.

@RedHelenB a good four hours after when you'd usually have lunch.

unless she normal has lunch ( 12 /2 ish ) when the rest of have dinner (5/7ish ) then yes it is very rude, She should of at least let you know she was going to be late or confirm exactly what time she was going to be there .
If she has got DCs maybe they are poorly but she should still let you know .
Were you planning on going out somewhere together ?
Have you tried to get hold of her ? is there a chance that she has forgot the arrangement ?

“I’m very sorry that you seem to have been held up, however, after a long wait of 6 hours for your arrival, I am going to get on with what’s left of my day”

Does she normally like to keep you waiting or is it a one off?

Of course it is.

I'd send a text saying sorry, too late now.

Very rude! Would she know if you had plans for tonight that don’t include her?

Agree with above posters, tell her not to bother.

I'd text back & say that it's too late now & you have plans this evening! That's bloody rude!!

Let'smoveondude has got it spot on

I think maybe she said after lunch meaning that lunch would be the absolute earliest time she'd arrive without being specific about it. In future I'd ask someone to be more specific on times

Tell her it's too late now, that you're getting dinner ready.

Yes it's rude, my friend has done this before and I've swiftly cancelled saying it's a little to late as it was approaching kids bedtime.

After that I made sure to arrange specific times.

No, not on at all. I had a friend who used to pull this shit, until the day she finally ( 4 hours late) got to mine and out was out dropping Dd at Brownies , then SHE had a go at ME . Words were had.