To be angry about this

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Dh needs to have 2 operations. Just had one privately. I wasn't overly impressed about this as it cost 14k but the NHS wait was long. My aibu is that whilst waiting to go down he suggested that he will use my savings account to pay for the next one. Now these savings were part of his father's inheritance but still. I said now was not the time to discuss. Since than he has been asking about my child benefit account. I keep saying that he neds to chase up NHS referral for second procedure but I get the impression that he just wants to pay privately again.
Aibu to be angry

Maybe ethically the money is his but legally as married not so much.
Anyway I understood that this investment was in lieu of me not paying into a pension at the minute.
The short period of time could be up to 6 weeks of ssp.

Sorry there are funds available in his account to cover it. Although I guess I object to unnecessary expenditure from any account as I am perhaps more careful with money and worry more about paying bills etc.

Regardless of the rights and wrongs of private vs NHS, it really sounds like you resent and dislike him quite a lot....

If we had the money I would personally spend it on my OH or my children if it would help them to be out of pain sooner rather than later.

If he has the money in his savings account he can use that first if he's desperate to have the op privately.

On this occasion it won't though. We have been told that the NHS wait is equivalent to the recovery period required between ops.
Dh does just seem set on the private route again.
I think I just feel under pressure. The weight of everything is on me at the moment. I know it is horrible being in pain and recovering from surgery. I have had several operations myself.
Yet when I am ill I can't go sick. I have to carry on.