To think DH could do a bit more on the mornings?

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Because I’ve just been told not to start before he goes to work...

DH works fifteen minutes walk from our house and doesn’t have to be there until 9am. We have four month old twins.

On a morning he will just get up (as late as he possibly can) get dressed and go. We have a dog and a cat. He never lets dog into garden for a wee or feeds them before he goes. My twins usually wake up around 7.30 to 8 am and I have to change nappies and breast feed both before I can even attempt to leave the bedroom. This takes at least an hour. I would appreciate a cup of tea and some toast from him so much as I’m usually thirty and starving. It just doesn’t happen though unless he has time and I ask him for it.

I know he has to go to work, but I work everyday 24 hours with these babies. AIBU to ask for just a little bit more thought?

There wouldn’t be any point in him taking the twins downstairs with him Weary. They are BF and need feeding as soon as they wake. Unless they wake at the same fine. Then I will BF the bottle refusing baby and DH will give other twin a bottle of expressed milk.

DH definitely isn’t excluded from caring for the babies. I’m not the precious only I can do it right type.

What’s he like when he’s at home on days off?

I have twins and the first year is such hard work. I could BF but bottle feeding was still a major chore. Like your H mine did sweet FA and that's why he's an ex, I got to the point when I realised I was doing everything and he had the life of Riley.
I made it absolutely clear what he needed to do - lists, emails, texts etc
It made no difference and my exhaustion, anger and frustration was my problem for me to deal with according to him.

You need to address this and sort out a more equitable share of the work or your resentment will grow and erode your relationship until it fails. There is nothing more unattractive than a man who refuses to help bring up his childern and treating his partner like a housekeeper.

He’s OK on days off, but it’s still a case of me telling him what needs to be done.

Just having a low day today. Babies don’t nap during the day, but I took them out for an hour in pram hoping they would nod off. We’ve come back and they immediately wake up again! House is upside down. I can’t tidy it and I’m just bloody sick!

Well you need to talk to him. Is he one of these that thinks ‘you sit around all day’. 🙄 my marriage would bloody well end in divorce if DH dared even suggest that.

No he doesn’t think that. He knows how hard it is, which makes behaviour like this even more infuriating!