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About DP's behaviour?

71 replies

dupi · 30/12/2018 08:58

Our relationship has been a bit rocky for a while.
We went out last night and were having a really good night until about 3am when his mood completely switched and he was convinced someone had stole from him (seemed weird to me as we surely would've seen that).
We'd been speaking to a couple of girls most the night.
When he realised someone had stolen from him (?), he shouted at me in the pub and was getting really angry and in an already drunken state, I got emotional and we went outside to talk.
Girl 1 came out and comforted me and he was so rude and told her to 'go the fuck back inside'.
Girl 2 came out and he smashed a drink out of her hand (so it went all over me), and called her a slag!!!!
I told him to get his stuff and not come near me after that and he told me I was the worst person, worst girlfriend and that I should be backing him up in a situation like that.
Was I being unreasonable because it doesn't feel like it????

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Escolar · 30/12/2018 09:00

OP, please leave this rude, violent, unpleasant. paranoid man.

DoneLikeAKipper · 30/12/2018 09:00

Seriously Hmm. I never understand posts like this, why do you need to join a forum just to ask if your arsehole boyfriend is an arsehole?

dupi · 30/12/2018 09:05

He continued to shout at me for half an hour at home before I convinced him to get out! Drink brings out such a bad side to him.

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Shoxfordian · 30/12/2018 09:13

Break up with him, he's a twat

Angrybird345 · 30/12/2018 09:16

I hope you’re not married to him. Leave him now!!

MrsTommyBanks · 30/12/2018 09:18

Finish with him. He will only get worse.

CripsSandwiches · 30/12/2018 09:20

Honestly there's no drink brings out the worst side of him. If I acted like this when drunk I would just never ever drink, he knows how he behaves while drunk yet happily puts himself in that situation again. It's no excuse and I would guess the behaviour will start leaking into his sober life too.

TeddybearBaby · 30/12/2018 09:20

Sounds like he was on drugs......

BlueSuffragette · 30/12/2018 09:23

Leave him now he's a violent dick head.

pictish · 30/12/2018 09:23

You most certainly are not being unreasonable. He smashed a drink out of a girl’s hand? Wtf is the matter with him? That’s preposterous behaviour!
All of it....the switch in mood, turning on you, behaving like a tyrant to those girls...all rather sinister. Insisting you should have backed him up? Twisted.

No way Jose. Drink is no excuse, if it was, he wouldn’t drink for fear of a repeat performance. As it is, he thinks it’s fine...indulges himself in a bit of tyranny, blames being drunk.

Fuck off.

dupi · 30/12/2018 09:25

@pictish see he doesn't even blame it on being drunk. I haven't spoke to him this morn but I'm convinced that he will stick think that he was 75% in the right and I should've 'had his back' in a situation like thatConfused

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Lana1234 · 30/12/2018 09:26

You have to ask? Of course you weren’t being unreasonable Confused leave him OP

Adviceandguidanceneeded · 30/12/2018 09:26

Does he do cocaine?!

Bananalanacake · 30/12/2018 09:26

Is this the first time or is he always like this.

pictish · 30/12/2018 09:26

Did they steal from him?

Wolfiefan · 30/12/2018 09:27

He thinks this behaviour is ok? Run. Far away.

Ellisandra · 30/12/2018 09:27

Well, what are you going to do?

recklessruby · 30/12/2018 09:28

Leave him now if you ever want to enjoy an evening out and drinks in peace or you want a glass of wine at home without worrying he will drink too much and get violent.
The broken glass could have cut someone badly.
If you don't want a life walking on eggshells every time there's drink around tell him goodbye.

dupi · 30/12/2018 09:29

@pictish don't think we will ever have that questioned answered. I can't see when they would've had the opportunity but he was certain.

@Adviceandguidanceneeded not as far as I'm aware, he knows I certainly wouldn't be happy.

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DoneLikeAKipper · 30/12/2018 09:54

dupi

You’ve been told you’re not unreasonable. So what are you going to do?

SilverBirchTree · 30/12/2018 10:50

Leave him.

Aquamarine1029 · 30/12/2018 10:53

You would be a fool to stay with this man. You're smarter than that, surely?

dupi · 30/12/2018 12:46

Unsure of what to do from now. Told him not to come back today.

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Wolfiefan · 30/12/2018 13:35

How can you possibly be unsure? He swore at one and insulted another women. For no good reason. He then smashed a glass out of their hands.
Run.
If you don’t it won’t be that long before he turns his paranoid and nasty behaviour your way.

dupi · 30/12/2018 13:56

I'm unsure because we've been together 3 years and have a child together so it's not as easy as just kicking him out. @Wolfiefan

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