About DP's behaviour?

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Our relationship has been a bit rocky for a while.
We went out last night and were having a really good night until about 3am when his mood completely switched and he was convinced someone had stole from him (seemed weird to me as we surely would've seen that).
We'd been speaking to a couple of girls most the night.
When he realised someone had stolen from him (?), he shouted at me in the pub and was getting really angry and in an already drunken state, I got emotional and we went outside to talk.
Girl 1 came out and comforted me and he was so rude and told her to 'go the fuck back inside'.
Girl 2 came out and he smashed a drink out of her hand (so it went all over me), and called her a slag!!!!
I told him to get his stuff and not come near me after that and he told me I was the worst person, worst girlfriend and that I should be backing him up in a situation like that.
Was I being unreasonable because it doesn't feel like it????

Good luck with your relationship op. Not sure what went on last night. Is something bothering him that’s been exaggerated by the drink and caused him to act out of character. Or I said earlier about drugs, that’s a possibility...... hope you’re ok x

@TeddybearBaby thank you x

If you can't leave him then he needs to stop drinking - or only have one when he goes out. He clearly cannot handle it anymore

He's turned up with flowers this morning - but still hasn't even admitted it was wrong behaviour!!!!

He's shown you who he is. Dump him.

Because he doesn’t think it is. If you accept this then it’ll be worse next time.

And you've let him back in.

And so life will go on.

Until the next time.

@Nanny0gg by which means have I 'let him back in'?

Does he use drugs?

@GabriellaMontez no, he doesn't.

I think Nanny means this is one if those threads we know how it goes.

He buys flowers comes home life continues aa before until next time.

Ok did he have a lot to drink? E abuse his behaviour sounds erratic.

Are the other problems in your relationship linked to his alcohol use?

*because

So you told him to sod off and never return when he turned up with flowers?
Earlier you didn’t “think” he did drugs. Now it’s a hard no. Stop minimising and closing your eyes to what he’s really like.

Oh, flowers. Well that’s all fine then. Until next time. Don’t let your child grow up with a parent like this.

@GabriellaMontez yes, a lot to drink. Neither of us drink regularly at all.

@Wolfiefan he was coming to have DS as I have to work today.

So he got entirely shit faced and abusive and you’ve left him in charge of a child? Jesus wept.

He sounds dangerous, frankly.

Hi OP,
I can understand to a degree. My OH can be a completely different person when he drinks. A usually loving, incredibly caring, wonderful person can 'switch' when drinking. For him, it was only about one in ten times so about once or twice a year, but it was too much for me. He was never violent or abusive, just illogical and embarrassing but I have him an ultimatum he needed to stop drinking altogether or he wouldn't be able to stay. He's now been teetotal 4 years and has never been happier. It helps that I'm teetotal ( pretty much always have been) and we're kept busy with DS and his two DSS.

It's his choice, he can change.

Gave not have

@Starlight456

Yep.

Are the flowers in the bin?
Will he go back to his mum's tonight?

Will he actually sit and listen to what you have to say? Can you be bothered?