Is the trust gone?

[Laurry]

20 years together 3 kids and there have been trust issues....early on in the relationship i found out he had been emailing other women ( didnt see much just how he loved and missed them) nothing physical tho.

Recently have found him texting some woman from work, text made me uncomfortable....the lies, kisses at the end of every message) not like him....most of the messages deleted. Promised it would stòp ( i thought it had) tonight found out he has been texting her as much as he has me (if not more)

Its the lies that im struggling with....why not just be straight with me and why delete all messages? Honestly if this was your dh what would you think?...thanks in advance x

Honestly?
His bags would be in the garden.

Put him in the bin.

He has me thinking i am being unreasonable....i trusted him 100% as far as cheating goes but had lied to me over other things, makes me feel like im overreacting but it is the lying and deleted messages makes me suspicious....why delete if nothing to hide?

Should have been binned 20 years ago. Get him gone.

I think you've just answered your own question. Don't waste another 20 yrs get rid.

Thanks for all the replies