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To hate my parents dog?

66 replies

Ribbonsonabox · 29/12/2018 16:15

I'm not a big fan of pets at all in general anyway... but I understand other people get very sentimental about them so despite my worries I said it was okay for my parents to bring their dog over Christmas. They usually leave it with friends but that was not possible this year.

I bloody hate the thing.
I've got a toddler and a 5monty old baby.
It's just been a nightmare. It chews my childrens toys, it climbs on the sofa (which its allowed to do at my parents house so they dont tell it off and I dont feel I can) it was everywhere and then the wee dries and I have no idea where it was but can smell it... so I have to clean the whole floor because of my children... and also because our house is small everyone gets in a strop with me because they all have to move out of the living room whilst I do it... it's like no one cares that my children are essentially playing in dog excrement... it's me that's uptight!
They've made a bed for the dog in the bedroom they are sleeping in (which is mine and my husbands bedroom because it's the better room) out of my cushions and one of my bath towels...
The stupid dog is frightened of the garden so it has to be escorted out for a poo every night... and so it pops and wees in the house if it can...

Today parents went into the town without the dog. I stayed in because me and the children are ill. My husband is at work. The dog has howled constantly and scratched at the door and keeps trying to come upstairs... its shat all over the living room floor despite being let out often (it cannot stay in the garden alone as it has a public right of way through it and sometimes people leave the gate open and the dog has form for just running off)
It chews stuff it finds and leaves bits of slobbery stuff everywhere...

I don't know if it's just coz I'm not used to dogs but it just seems absolutely grim. I'm used to a certain level of mess and yuckiness because I've got two young children and I thought I was quite relaxed but this dog is making me want to burn the house down and all of my possessions so I can start over and be away from the disgustingness....

I dont have time to babysit this emotionally needy pile of hair whilst I'm trying to look after my children...

Before anyone has a massive hover me i haven't been mean to the dog or my parents and I'm just having a vent here.

I hate domesticated dogs. Dogs should live in the wild.

Thanks for listening to my rant.

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Ribbonsonabox · 29/12/2018 16:16

Sorry some odd autocorrects in that post!

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WWWWicked · 29/12/2018 16:17

When your parents get back tell them “the dog has shat all over my house - there’s the mop, bucket and bleach for you to clean it up. The dog is outside in the garden, will it be sleeping outside tonight or are you going home?”

CatAnnoyance · 29/12/2018 16:19

Get them to bloody clean up after it!! I feel for you, I'd hate this. When are they leaving? Soon I hope.

madcatladyforever · 29/12/2018 16:19

I couldn't stand that but then I don't really like dogs. It sounds extremely unhygenic and disgusting. Especially with young children about.
My cat is shut in the kitchen in her cosy bed when I have guests over, not everyone likes animals.

MsTSwift · 29/12/2018 16:19

You are a saint.

HarrySnotter · 29/12/2018 16:20

I love dogs. I have a dog. I would NOT like this at all. They need to train their dog for a start and they definitely need to have some respect for you and your home. It's really not the dog's fault - your parents are responsible for this.

hidinginthenightgarden · 29/12/2018 16:21

We had a rescue dog and other than a few teething accidents (wee) when she moved in, she never left mess all over the house. Maybe the dog is anxious? Is it old?

I wouldn't allowing it in my house again after this!

Didntwanttochangemyname · 29/12/2018 16:21

I have a toddler and a baby, and a lovely, well trained dog. My life is nothing like what you've described. There is something wrong with the situation with your parents and their dog. It is either ill or they have not trained it, but whatever the reason you would be completely within your rights to tell them to clean up, and piss off!

OnlineAlienator · 29/12/2018 16:22

YaNbu. I dont hate dogs, i have dogs, but that is a nightmare animal they should look after and train properly and NOT foist on other ppl!? Angry

ScreamingBadSanta · 29/12/2018 16:23

Dogs don't usually pee and poo in the house unless they're ill. It might be that your parents' dog is stressed by being in a strange environment especially if he isn't used to children.

Your parents should take responsibility for cleaning up. I don't think you should let them bring the dog again as it clearly isn't working out for anyone; least of all the dog.

Screamqueenz · 29/12/2018 16:23

I have dogs, and would but them in kennels rather than taking them to relatives with us.
Particularly when you have small children.

It's unfair to expect you to look after the dog for them, as well as your own two children.

So no YANBU, but YABU to suggest that dogs should live in the wild. If I released my pack, sighthounds trained to hunt, that would be the entire small mammal population gone.
We don't have wild dog packs in the UK.

ChairmanMiaow123 · 29/12/2018 16:24

Dogs are like a really needy, whingy kid, but forever...I bloody hate them all.

Are your parents not mortified about the dog’s behaviour and offering to clear up the constant ‘accidents’??
How dare they, frankly?!

There’s no way, on god’s green earth, i’d allow a dog in my house.
You have my every sympathy, Ribbons...x

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Ribbonsonabox · 29/12/2018 16:24

I feel guilty aa fbout because it's clearly like a child to them or something, they just think everything it does is cute! They are only here for a few more days thankfully... they've been here over two weeks though.. they have been very kind in other ways... I just hate that dog, it's not coming again! Glad to hear people dont think I'm just being uptight here.
Our house is rented as well which makes me very anxious because not all the furniture is ours.. the sofa isn't ours it belongs to the landlord.. I have covered the sofa with thick blankets and a sheet to keep it clean but it still makes me so tense how they let the dog climb all over it. I did explain it wasn't our sofa and they made him get off it once... but they then let him back on and act like I'm nuts.. so I haven't had the energy to keep on at them about it

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Nothisispatrick · 29/12/2018 16:25

I love dogs. This dog has not been trained properly and that’s not it’s fault, it is your parents fault and they should be doing the clearing up.

Cauliflowersqueeze · 29/12/2018 16:26

God almighty. Really feel for you. Nobody should have to put up with that.

Babygrey7 · 29/12/2018 16:27

I love dogs, but I cannot stand dogs on sofas, or those peeing and pooing indoor!!!

What breed is it?

Does it get proper walks daily?!

Sounds awful, you have my sympathy (PS,my dog is sweet and does none of these things Halo. It's not normal behaviour)

missyB1 · 29/12/2018 16:27

Poor dog it’s clearly not happy. They have been unfair on the dog and you. Make sure this situation never happens again.

Oysterbabe · 29/12/2018 16:28

Treat this as an important lesson, it never comes to your house again.
When are they leaving?

HarrySnotter · 29/12/2018 16:29

Dogs are like a really needy, whingy kid, but forever...I bloody hate them all.

Ah come on @ChairmanMiaow123, not all of them are - mine is better behaved than some of my friends' kids! Grin My cat is the one to watch round here, he can be a right twat (but I love him anyway).

Sweetpea55 · 29/12/2018 16:29

How disgusting,,
And your parents think it can do no wrong? Crazy..
Get them to clean up aftetr it,,

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 29/12/2018 16:30

Bloody hell you are a saint yes! I'm not surprised you're done in, they've stayed with you for so long!

Just be prepared to say no next time they want to visit with the dog.

WiddlinDiddlin · 29/12/2018 16:30

YABU..

None of this is the dogs fault.

All of this is your parents fault.

Did the dog pack his gear to come stay at yours and forget to pack a dog bed? No. Your parent's did that.

DId the dog decide to stay home whilst your parents went out and then shut himself in a room alone and shit everywhere - no, your parents did that.

Did the dog teach himself to get on sofas, and fail to teach himself to get off when asked - no, your parents did that.

So yeah YABVVVU to blame the dog, who is just a dog, for the rudeness of your parents.

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Ribbonsonabox · 29/12/2018 16:31

It's a poodle.
It's not the dogs fault I know, it's just anxious about being here with people it doesn't really know.
They do walk it every day and I've been letting it in the garden whilst they've been out and standing with it... but then it pooed and weed in the house anyway!

I just feel awful about it because I want to feel sorry for it but quite honestly a large part of me just wants it to just GO AWAY.

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RandomMess · 29/12/2018 16:31

Have a dog (and cats) lover to bits and she is allowed on sofa and in our beds during the day etc.

I would not dream of assuming she was welcome for overnight stays anywhere and would always book her into kennels even though she isn't keen!!!

You need to tell your parents that the dog isn't welcome in the future.

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aaaaargghhhhelpme · 29/12/2018 16:31

I love dogs. You don’t have a dog problem you have a parent problem. That poor dog isn’t trained and is scared to go outside. They don’t bother listening to you when you say you’re not comfortable with it climbing on your (rented) sofa. They have no respect for you or your property.

Honestly? I’d be having words with your parents. It’s not fair on that poor dog for a start. But your house? You? Your family putting up with a shitting, weeing, scratching anxious as fuck animal?! God you deserve medals.

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