To hate my parents dog?

[Ribbonsonabox]

I'm not a big fan of pets at all in general anyway... but I understand other people get very sentimental about them so despite my worries I said it was okay for my parents to bring their dog over Christmas. They usually leave it with friends but that was not possible this year.

I bloody hate the thing.
I've got a toddler and a 5monty old baby.
It's just been a nightmare. It chews my childrens toys, it climbs on the sofa (which its allowed to do at my parents house so they dont tell it off and I dont feel I can) it was everywhere and then the wee dries and I have no idea where it was but can smell it... so I have to clean the whole floor because of my children... and also because our house is small everyone gets in a strop with me because they all have to move out of the living room whilst I do it... it's like no one cares that my children are essentially playing in dog excrement... it's me that's uptight!
They've made a bed for the dog in the bedroom they are sleeping in (which is mine and my husbands bedroom because it's the better room) out of my cushions and one of my bath towels...
The stupid dog is frightened of the garden so it has to be escorted out for a poo every night... and so it pops and wees in the house if it can...

Today parents went into the town without the dog. I stayed in because me and the children are ill. My husband is at work. The dog has howled constantly and scratched at the door and keeps trying to come upstairs... its shat all over the living room floor despite being let out often (it cannot stay in the garden alone as it has a public right of way through it and sometimes people leave the gate open and the dog has form for just running off)
It chews stuff it finds and leaves bits of slobbery stuff everywhere...

I don't know if it's just coz I'm not used to dogs but it just seems absolutely grim. I'm used to a certain level of mess and yuckiness because I've got two young children and I thought I was quite relaxed but this dog is making me want to burn the house down and all of my possessions so I can start over and be away from the disgustingness....

I dont have time to babysit this emotionally needy pile of hair whilst I'm trying to look after my children...

Before anyone has a massive hover me i haven't been mean to the dog or my parents and I'm just having a vent here.

I hate domesticated dogs. Dogs should live in the wild.

Thanks for listening to my rant.

I feel so sorry for you, your kids and the dog. I love dogs and have 5 but this is so unfair on all of you. I'd never inflict this on anyone. Your parents have been really unfair. All you can do is make sure it never stays again. This is why it's a good idea that dogs are happy to be in cage or pen sometimes because there will be times during its life where its fairer on it and everyone around it, that's its confined temporarily. Your folks have been very irresponsible, sorry OP, YANBU.

My in-law's dog irritates me. He always manages to chew something. He chewed through my shoe, even when MIL told me she put it "out of his reach". He licks my toddler's face (Ew). And steals and chews my toddler's toys. He's not a bad dog, I just have no patience for a fluffy needy ball of drool who constantly destroys my stuff. I've got enough of that already with the toddler.

Alright, Harry - you’ve won me over about your beloved dog. 😉

I’m a cat person and I think i’d let your haughty cat get away with murder!

I know exactly what you mean. I love dogs always have and have a dog but she is trained and would never poop in the house. My mums dog on the other hand is a nightmare. When my son was younger she would let the dog in after running over a muddy garden ( my garden needs sorting out but then again we are concentrating on inside for now) she did it every time to the point I had to pick my son up and mop and clean walls it was that bad (found some on the ceiling once) he's a big dog and hyperactive. I lost my tag one night and ordered her and her filthy dog out saying if she had more manners and keep the dog in the lead till she got into the house and warn me so I could pick up my son. She was miffed and stomped home. I didn't care stating I would never let my dog do that. She came over a week later and apologised and came to the compromise that she keeps him on the lead till he gets into the house. Him and my son get on really well

Not all dogs behave this way. This dog clearly hasn't been trained.

I agree with giving your parents the cleaning supplies and telling them to clean up the mess THEIR animal made. I also agree that you should advise them the dog isn't welcome. I'd even advise them that you don't feel comfortable to have the dog over as the house is a rental and you could lose your deposit and worse.

We have three cats and don't usually bring them for overnight stays. (One exception was when we went for a 2-week vacation; my parents agreed to take them but we only had 2 cats at that time.)

Does the dog have neurological issues/is his back end weak? One of mine has accidents due to his age, he's very old.

I don't understand why people bring their dogs with them, I just wouldn't tolerate it and your parents have been there over two weeks? I'd be murderous, would have been murderous about 12 days ago, actually.

I’m a cat person and I think i’d let your haughty cat get away with murder!

I'm afraid I do @ChairmanMiaow123 . He's 18 now and a grumpy old ginger tom who's not particularly fond of DH, which is a shame as poor old DH has spent the last 17 years that we've been together trying to win him over. The dog is 5 times his size and terrified of him. (Sorry for the derail OP).

HairySnotter

Contrast that with our ginger tom who decided practically from Day 1 that Daddy is his favourite! The other day Gatsby, our youngest cat, hopped into Daddy's lap. Biggie (ginger tom) looked as if somebody had just peed on his rug. Eventually Biggie went off in a huff while Gatsby snuggled with Daddy and enjoyed some petting.

I agree op...I have no idea how anyone could bare a dog in their home ...totally filthy and hard work.

"I don't know if it's just coz I'm not used to dogs but it just seems absolutely grim."

It is grim! We have a big dog. He sleeps in a dog bed in the corner. He doesn't poo or pee in the house. He does not chew. He does not go on the sofa or upstairs. There are hours and hours of our time invested in training him to ensure all of this.

Thier dog sounds like hell (because of thier training/raising of it). No dog like that would be coming into my house. Frankly your parents are fucking disrespectful making it a bed out of your things and letting it run amok. They should be cleaning everything and replacing everything it has chewed. Never let it in your house again!

OP this sounds horrendous. Personally I'd make them go home, they have little respect for you. The bath towel & cushion wound me up as much as anything else.

YANBU!

I have 2 dogs, a 4yo and a newborn and I’m disgusted at this. The other posters are right - this is a lack of training issue. Be firm but clear with your parents that the dog is not welcome to stay and tbh I’d tell them that it needs to go to training classes.

I lI've dogs and I have one myself.

That does not mean that other people's untrained animals are welcome in my home. I would be fuming if I were in your shoes.

I don't allow my dog on furniture or upstairs yet we have had a house guest (family) who thinks that their dogs should be treated differently to mine. No!

You are more patient than me, I couldn't put up with what you're describing.

Wow.
I have a dog and never has she behaved anything like that.
She is very clean and civilised, never chewed anything in my house, toileting accidents are incredibly rare.

I would think that that behaviour - peeing and pooing everywhere, the being frightened of a garden, extreme anxiety when owners out but dog has company of people it knows highly abnormal actually.
It sounds extremely anxious?
The rest I think is bad training.

I think their attitude is very poor aswell, why didn’t they bring an actual bed with them?!
I would be bloody livid if my cushions were used as a bed, bring your own dog bed!

And I would be absolutely mortified if my dog chewed anything or had an accident, I would be reimbursing and cleaning straight away..

I would hate to take my dogs to somebody else's house. I would put them in the kennels. One of my dogs actually starts wimpering if we visit someone's dog friendly house for an hour. She hates it but loves kennels.

I really need to stop coming on Mumsnet when I'm ill and bored. Surely most of the threads are made up by people taking the piss. Dogs should live in the wild. So funny. Try telling my little FURBABIES that. Hilarious.