I have had one exbf who was so unhappy at my commitment to work that he stamped on my work blackberry: broke up with him and kept the lovely superkingsize bed. Another exbf who was a violent alcoholic (slapped me whilst feeding 4mo DS): broke up with him and kept the house. Another who was a low level narc abuser: again, broke up with him and kept the (bigger) house; and finally a self-admitted alcoholic: broke up with him and kept nothing other than my dignity. I choose horrible men. Never again!!