NC for this
OK so I was born abroad and I was not going to my home country for Christmas. Big family, only me and brother have DCs.
Two of my siblings (sister and brother with new baby) are over there for Christmas.
My other siblings don't particularly like children (not Herods but not particularly interested, won't have them either) or have been around them much.
My sister just informed me that "she has no clothes to wear for our niece Christening" 😳
Say what?
AIBU to think they could have told us this was happening? 😳
I have a normal relationship with my brother. I thought maybe it was because we didn't do a big wedding (just us and witnesses) and SIL likes a Vendetta (which of course would still mean they were both "guilty" not just her) but my other sibling said that they had no clue either.
I asked my sister who is going and she said, well, he just sent me a text the other day to ask me to be the Godmother 😳 and that it is an "informal" event and no need to dress up, yet it is in our hometown big impressive Cathedral that I know takes a long time and strings to book.
My sister who is going doesn't have anything to wear and as much as he says"casual" we all know that won't be the case.
I can only think that
A) she didn't want my sister to dress up (she commented on the dress I wore to her wedding for months -a royal blue, modest neck line Karen Millen dress) and she buys something if we bought it, like dresses.
B) since we are no longer religious, my brother thinks we would judge, which makes me think I need to work on how I project my opinions as I am very respectful of religion, just don't follow anymore
C) it really is an informal event and he forgot to tell me?
I just exchanged messages the other day with him and talked about his plans so I feel confused and maybe a little sad...
I thought maybe it is because he has seen how happy DC is and that he thought we are good parents and that he would have asked me to be godmother?
So I asked my sister who wasn't told and she said she is sad as well.
Be honest!! 💙