To be pissed off that my mother has JUST changed her mind about coming for Christmas dinner

[yesmelord]

I need a rant. DH is at work all day today, so I'm doing a later Christmas dinner for about 7:30.

It was originally just me, my DD and my DH that I was cooking for but my mum and Dad thought it would be nice if they could come along too and see DD's presents and spend some time with us, along with my little sister.

I couldn't say no to that so agreed that of course they could come for Christmas dinner too.

So I ordered loads more food and a joint beef because they don't like turkey, puddings etc and they have just told me they are really full from lunch and don't want to come to mine for dinner anymore.

It was their idea in the first place!

AIBU to just want to bloody cry. I'm 6 months pregnant. Been alone all day (since 4 am when DD woke up) with a rowdy 2 year old who's been crying for daddy and I've been prepping the food as I've been going.

DD has only just gone for a nap.

There is so much food chopped and cut up ready and my meat is all cooked and for what? It's all going to go to waste.
The table has looked all beautifully set since yesterday. I'm so angry and frustrated with them.

NEVER AGAIN!

Remember this. Next year when they ask, the answer is NO!

And IF (and I mean IF, because parents like this are not worth messing with, in my experience) you agree to cater for them again, let them eat what suits you, not what they might prefer.

I really hope you have a lovely Christmas with your real family xxxx

Freeze the veg in bags for soup. Can be done raw or cooked. Meat use it up on sandwiches etc. Be glad of the peace when dh lands home and it's just you 3.

They don't deserve my cheese
LOVE this
for you op and at your self-centered parents.

They don't deserve my cheese

Perfect

The veg isn’t wasted — that’s the best stuff. I’m making bubble and squeak fritters and freezing those, the leftover meat im slicing thin, it’ll be ace in egg fried rice.

My DM did this to me 20 odd years ago. Was supposed to come down with my Dad and step dad for food and drinks Christmas afternoon. She phoned an hour after they were due to say they couldn't come as she'd had a sherry and stepdad had a headache. Both dad and stepdad did as they were told so wouldn't have come without her. We'd spent a bloody fortune and was our first Christmas of me and then fiancé (now ExH) so we made a real fuss. Never invited her again.

• first Christmas of me and then fiancé living together, hat should say!

*that!! 🙄🙈

Too much Christmas spirit....

It's not you it's them that's shit they knew they were coming to yours they should've left room for dinner, assume they know you're pregnant?

Deffo get that bra off, get comfy & deal with leftovers tomorrow

My stbxh was meant to be coming for dinner today, I went to shop yesterday especially to get trifle for him only one that eats it. Glad I didn't go to effort of making it, he said as an aside yesterday evening at 7pm that he wouldn't be coming. I don't care that he didn't come but the ignorance of not saying it until then

A 2 year old, 6 months pregnant, and you invited them over? You are amazing and your parents should be utterly ashamed of themselves!!! They should have invited you over so you could put your feet up.

At least you can hold your head high knowing you are a wonderful daughter!

Cook and freeze what you can. You'll be glad of it when baby comes. It's annoying but the food doesnt have to go to waste.

If you tell us what you have left/need to salvage after you've eaten and what's cooked/not cooked then maybe we can help with some suggestions.

I can't believe how selfish your not so 'D'M is.

Enjoy the rest of the day.

WHY would they have the full works for lunch when they knew they were coming to you for dinner? That's just mad! And extremely rude, not to say unpleasant.
Merry Christmas anyway, OP, and I hope you can enjoy the rest of your pregnancy without that kind of input from your ill-mannered parents.

WTF. That is so rude!!! Who does that?! You are not being unreasonable!!!

And now you can back away quietly from the Cfers.
They have spelled out how little they respect you.

We don't have the best relationship but I always try really hard with her.

*Stop doing that. She is giving you clear signs she doesn’t care so don’t bother with her anymore

How’s that cheese going? 🙂

cheese freezes well.
veg do too.
agree with pp, freeze in usable portions.
and agree with pp, don't dwell on it, but remember for the future not to pander to them

merry christmas!

Cut up cooked meat and veg, mix with gravy ( all cold). Place in pie dish and cover with defrosted puff pastry. Paint pastry with milk and pop in oven at 180 C for about 25 minutes.
Also beef fried rice with left overs.
Bubble and sqeak
Frittatas
Beef and salad wraps and rolls.
Enjoy your leftovers
Don’t invite your family next year

Freeze any hard cheese in chunks for grating over meals. Cook and freeze veg.

Never invite your parents again. So inconsiderate of them.

Selfish fuckers! Yes, don't offer again. I'm six months pregnant and it has taken all of yesterday and cooking today to prepare for OH family, but they were very grateful and helped out by bringing pudding. Has been knackering though. Some people just don't get how much hard work it is, as they don't offer to do it themselves. Make it clear to them that you feel let down and you are not happy.

Dinner was (plentiful) but lovely, we're saving the cheese for tonight when DH gets home from work. Loads of left overs that I've been looking online for ideas for. Thanks for the suggestions too!

My whole body aches this morning and I'm dreading going downstairs to deal with the mess. DD slept like a log.

I do feel very depressed today, about parents behaviour yesterday and general feel sorry for my selfness. Just lonely with out DH.

I hope next Christmas will be a bit better!

Thank you for all your supports yesterday! Merry Christmas!

Give us a list of what you have leftover and i'm sure we can give you ideas of how to use it.

I do think you should tell them that you went to extra expense and the trouble of cooking for everyone which was huge effort while pregnant and how disappointed you are. They shouldn’t get away with being blasé about this.

No they know I'm pissed off and I'm not going to their house today for the Boxing Day meal which I would usually do.
I think the best thing to do is ignore them for a while. Not rise to it and generally be a bigger person. Plus I don't really need any more stress right now, my bump was very painful last night and I think I just need to take it steady and rest as much as I can.

I'm just staying at home with DD and her presents.

I'm left with so many carrots, parsnips, potatoes, the meat obviously. Cheese will keep, puddings are in the freezer.

I'm slooowly getting through the mess! Got zero energy though.