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I hate Christmas.

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bathtimesanity · 25/12/2018 13:32

Almost in tears as the Christmas dinner is looming and I want to please my parents and be able to eat it, but I know I can't. I've had OCD since I was 7, now 20 & since 14 I've never been able to eat something other people have cooked as I'm scared of germs and getting ill. I have to do it again tomorrow at my boyfriends parents house, last year they made a meat based dish (one of my biggest fears!) and I ate it to be polite as it was my first Christmas with them and only second meeting but I was a wreck afterwards and had to sleep on the sofa.

Christmas time is so hard

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Italiangreyhound · 26/12/2018 13:18

bathtimesanity please make yoir new year's resolution that you will overcome tgis (with help) to live as normal a life as possible.

I've pit on weight and endangered my life with my impulse eating. I've battled tgis for many years but I am winning now and I will win. As a teenager I felt I was going crazy bit noe I know irrational thought a can be beaten.

To back to your GP and ask for help. Xxxxx

Happy New (you) Year. Flowers

bathtimesanity · 26/12/2018 13:59

@ilovesooty thank you!

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bathtimesanity · 26/12/2018 14:02

@Italiangreyhound I love that! Happy New (You) Year!😃 so inspiring, I'm wishing you all the best and hope you're overcoming your food issues too- it's brutal isn't it?💐

I will definitely be seeing my Gp soon, I've got a medication review in a few week so I'll make sure to talk to her then. X

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Italiangreyhound · 26/12/2018 14:29

bathtimesanity you are inspiring me and giving me hope. I am so sorry about the typos. I am dyslexic but in this case it was the phone and my chubby fingers not my dyslexia!

I have found positive thinking to provide a lot of answers to life's ills.

I am also a Christian and as long as one is connected to a church that is positive and forward thinking and not too traditional and not too full do nots/or too sure that one prayer will sort it all out! Then that is also a positive experience.

I've also got good family and friends, and people do not feed my fears.

My parents ignored things, which on reflection did not help.

When I met and married my husband (around 20 years ago) he was so good. He doesn't play along when I worry if the doors are locked etc. He tells me once, 'Yes, I locked the door', and if I ask again 'are you sure?', he says "I've already told you." I found that helped.

He didn't think there was anything to worry about, doors locked, all well, we were off out for the day, and his confidence helped me.

Just small things for me. But find what works for you.

XX Thanks

Treaclepie19 · 26/12/2018 14:45

I have OCD also and really do struggle with other people's kitchens and cooking.
The main thing I learned from CBT was not to avoid it. Asking for help on a forum like this will encourage you to avoid going. Which will feed the OCD as next time you will think it was unsafe so you avoided it. Rather than seeing you ate it and it was fine.

If you can manage it I would give it a go, if not then of course don't but I really would say go back and see your gp.
It's horrible to suffer with Flowers

Treaclepie19 · 26/12/2018 14:46

Stupid me didn't read the update! Well done for going :)

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