AIBU to love my MIL

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I've always been close to my Mil, we love close to her and she's always been there without being interfering, she's happy to have my dc and has a fantastic relationship with them.
I recently lost my own mum and she's been so supportive, not wanting to step on toes but being there to help out and thinking of my dad this time of year.
She helps positively with raising my sons and did such a good job with her son, my husband, I'm happy to listen to what she says
At this time of year I wanted to share the love for the good in laws

My mil is coming round to peel veg because I am at work. So I love her.

I have two actually and love them both

I've always been close to my Mil, we love close to her and she's always been there without being interfering, she's happy to have my dc and has a fantastic relationship with them.

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YANBU

My MIL is bloody amazing, I get on with her better than my own mum

That's lovely!
Mine drives me a little (sometimes a lot!!) potty but I love her nonetheless! Everything she does comes from a place of love. And she adores our two DDs. Watching the joy she (in fact all of our DDs' grandparents) gets from them is magical!

Yes I too have a fantastic MIL. When I was giving birth she came and cleaned my house. She has always just been there in a non judgemental way. Shes in her early eighties now. She looked frail yesterday. 😢

Thank you for this thread. There is so much mil hate on this site, so these posts make a lovely change.

Mine is lovely too, I'd like to see more of her. Really looking forward to seeing her tomorrow.

I love mine as well. She is very supportive and said from her son met me she saw MH nothing but positive change in him and that was even before she met me in person (he introduced me to his parents and family after 10 days) he had already told her, he knew I was "the one"

Mh is a typo

I actually love my step-MIL, now I think of it. She is supportive and kind and got me a feminist comic for my birthday DH's actual mother is a right poisonous bitch though!!

I adore my MIL. I don't have a great relationship with my own Mum so having her is amazing. She has been to all my children's births and is a fantastic DG to the kids. I always tell her I couldn't wish for better, she is very appreciated by us all

LTB

Mine is also of the excellent sort.

I loved mine. She died suddenly 3 years ago and didn't see us get married. She would have loved to have been there. So also she was never officially my mil but I do think of her as that.

I have an ex MIL who I love very much. She's spent Christmas with me and the kids, and some of my family, for years, and is coming this year too.

Mine was lovely. Sadly she died a couple of months ago. She was kind, loving and I miss her.

Thanks for this thread. I too had a good relationship with my mother in law . Seems that many posters on here go out of their way to actively dislike their mother in law and treat them as an inconvenient nuisance rather than part of their family. I accept that some mothers in law may not be perfect but sometimes the posts feel like a competitive sport to find the most trivial reason to complain and discourage MIL from being part of their, and their children’s lives. Looking forward to reading some positive posts .

I'm the same ❤️
Ok, there are some things we disagree on (but that's the same with me and my DM) but I can easy have a conversation with her about it.
She's not overbearing, but she is still often in touch as supportive.
Sometimes on these boards we only hear about the bad guys, but I'm glad there's plenty of us on here with good stories.
FWIW I'm also lucky with my FIL and DF

Mine is the best. She is loving, kind, full of energy, would give us the shirt off her back, and LOVES our kids to within an inch of their lives (the exact same amount that she loves her daughters kids )

A couple of times a year she me little WhatsApp messages, out of the blue, detailing what a great wife and mother I am, like she is thinking about me and just wants to tell me. she’s the best.

Ah, my FIL on the other hand, is a complete and utter arsehole.

My own parents are both great though.

My ex-MIL is lovely! Caring, helps out when needed, we still chat on the phone and go to each other’s homes, and we have a close enough relationship that we can affectionately take the piss out of each other. She gets on well with my partner (and recently had him pop round to the house to collect what turned out to be a huge sack of presents for my kids, who aren’t even her biological grandchildren). She’s brilliant!

DH is adopted as the second and last child in his family and I often tell people that I feel my MIL adopted me to be her third child aged 19! I was in awe of this impeccably groomed woman from the big house when I met her first, 16 years ago, but she was always so warm and welcoming and looked after me so well as a guest.

I call her Mum (for mum in law!) and will ring her to chat and send her photos of the children. My daughter adores her too - she's not just granny but "MY Granny"! We don't live close but I dearly wish we did.

She has recently been diagnosed with dementia and it makes me tear up to think of losing her slowly over the next few years. She's an amazing woman. I'm going to call her today before I forget.

I like the spirit of this thread!

I have really lovely ILs as well, and I genuinely enjoy and look forward to spending time with them. MIL is just an amazing, strong, intelligent woman (I mean she did raise the man I love!) who I constantly learn from and thoroughly admire. FIL is loving and genuine and silly and fun, and he always makes a point to make me feel welcome. The extended family (MANY aunts and uncles, all very close) are brilliant as well, and everyone likes to let loose, have a drink, and laugh together into the wee hours on special occasions. I just love each and every one of them to bits. In fact, when DH and I were driving off for home after our last visit, I joked to him, oh wow, I think I may love your family even more than mine!

DH has pretty great ILs as well, if I do say so myself. I like to tease that my DM and DF love him more than they love me... but that's only because they do! They really adore him. And my massive extended family all love and respect him. Just this week, an uncle, who is generally a bit guarded and occasionally appears stern, thanked DH for always taking such good care of me (something to that effect) and said he was glad they are family! That is staggering praise coming from him!

I really hope I don't sound like a twat just boasting about, because the fact that we come from very similar families - in size, closeness, proximity, personality, values - is undoubtedly a massive reason DH and I get on so well and have so much in common. When DH and I first began dating and I'd just met his entire clan, I was living far from home and family, and I joked to him that even if we didn't work out, I would keep "dating" his family as they reminded me of home and made me feel less homesick.

I know that I am extremely lucky and am eternally grateful that I don't have to endure the anxiety and suffering that probably most people deal with regarding ILs. Of course it's not perfect fun and praise and joy 100% of the time, but I am incredibly fortunate, and I do not take that for granted.

Things were a bit fraught when I was pregnant with DD1 but I realise this was because she had had her own MH issues, some of it stemming from fairly awful stuff going on in her childhood. I get on far better with her than my own mother and she's a fantastic granny and I'm so happy my kids have her.

I love this thread. My MIL is hard work, she drives us all bananas with her "I know best" thoughts and stubbornness/selfishness but mostly it's done out of love because she wants what's best for us and all those things aren't regular just every now and again. I love her to pieces and would be lost without her x