AIBU to love my MIL

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I've always been close to my Mil, we love close to her and she's always been there without being interfering, she's happy to have my dc and has a fantastic relationship with them.
I recently lost my own mum and she's been so supportive, not wanting to step on toes but being there to help out and thinking of my dad this time of year.
She helps positively with raising my sons and did such a good job with her son, my husband, I'm happy to listen to what she says
At this time of year I wanted to share the love for the good in laws

Mine is wonderful. She took them overnight on saturday because I was feeling quite ill.

Them=dc

Yanbu, your lucky to have a fab mil, sadly mine died 5 years ago, 6 months before my wedding so was never officially my mil, i have a fil & now a step-mil, but sadly they are not nice people, would give anything to have my mil back, she was a lovely lady

My ex MIL is coming for Xmas.
Mind you, so is my ex!

I have a lovely MIL too. She offered me support when I needed it -and never forced me to accept the help she wants to give instead of the help I would like IYSWIM. She clearly loves the DC and is proud of all her grandchildren without comparing or ranking them. She loves them as they are and doesn't need them to be high achievers. She appears to have no favourites. I love her dearly and hope she has shown me how to by a MIL for when DS marries/ has a long term partner.

I had a very strained relationship with my MIL, and then I went NC for 18 months because of horrible remarks she made to my BIL about me and my family.

Then, my DM passed away after being diagnosed with an aggressive form of cancer.

My MIL then completely changed, she became warm, loving, interested in me. She hugged me while I cried, listened to me when I needed to talk.

In short, she became amazing and our relationship now is brilliant and I just wish it could have been like this from the beginning.

What a nice post!
I LOVE my MIL as well. We've had some arguments, but that's because we are both strong women that can be open and honest with each other. We don't let things fester and she had a little cry when I married DH and thanked her for bringing him into the world. I promised to take care of him and she knows that I do.

We are now pregnant and I'm looking so forward to having her involved because I know she'll make an amazing Nonna. I don't know what I would have done without her, more than once. X

I loved my M.I.L.
To the point where when she developed a life threatening illness, I gave up my life to nurse her till she passed away some two years later.
She was a wonderful woman with a quirky sense of humour and a big heart.
I've got an image of her now laying on a cloud with her halo all skewiff and a glass of wine in her hand cheering us all on.

I love my MIL. She’s the first to admit that she doesn’t always get it right, and has a strained relationship with DH, but everything she does comes from a place of love. I enjoy spending time with her.

Lovely to hear all this MIL love...big shout out to Mrs Bob Dylan's MIL who is utterly wonderful.

When I was heavily pregnant with dc3 she listened to me wail and moan about my very sore piles. I didn't share this with anyone else (except for now when I have told lots of people via the internet).

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We are going through the diagnosis of Alzheimer's with my MIL. She's always driven me potty as we are very different people but she is kind and adores her family. It's so sad to watch her deminish before our eyes.

I could have written your post, even down to the bit about losing my own mum. My mil has been great with our kids. We bought a house round the corner from her and have lived harmoniously in close proximity for 10 years. She is a good influence on the kids and her dh is a star.
I adore them.

I wish I'd known my mil. She died long before DH and I met. From what DH has told me she was an amazing woman. We have a box full of hand knitted dolls she made and they're exquisite.
I did get to know fil, though he sadly passed before Dh and I married. He was a very sweet old man who thought the world of his son. Miss him.

My MIL is a lovely woman. Doesn’t interfere, but does support.

That's lovely op!
My mother is law is fab, she helps out, never steps on my toes or questions any parenting choices and loves my dcs. Shes a fantastic Baker and always makes a lovely cake when we got to her house. She's wonderful

Yep another MIL lover here! Mine is fab and I love her to bits! ❤️

This is so lovely! As the mother of 4 boys I always look at the MIL hate threads and despair a bit.

My mil is lovely too, but not physically or emotionally very close, so I hope to have a better relationship with my son's eventual partners!

Mine is great. Scatty, a bit forgetful, drives me crackers at times. She always starts a sentence in the middle and doesn’t explain herself well, but the good intentions are usually there (she can be a bit passive aggressive)
I like her. She’s a gem when I’m sick or ill and really helps me when I need it.

These posts are lovely! (And really alien to me as my MIL is an utter nightmare) I would love to have a mother in law like some of you guys!

In many ways I preferred my MIL to my DM. MIL was kind , non - interfering and the least judgemental woman I have ever met . Even though my DC were not her biological DGC , she treated them exactly the same as her other ones . She lived until she was 96 and I was proud to hold her hand as she slipped away .

My DH is now exDH, but I still maintain regular contact with his mum. She is a wonderful, supportive and caring woman. I love her very much.

Even when I split from her son, she was brilliant. She understood my reasons and didn't once try to justify his behaviour.

She is a fantastic grandma to my son and I wouldn't dream of cutting contact just because I'm no longer with her son. I couldn't have wished for a better MIL.

Unfortunately, she doesn't live in the UK. However, my son and I are leaving boxing day to visit her. We are staying with her for 6 weeks and really looking forward to it. She stayed with us last year for 6 weeks. It's becoming a winter tradition for us.

Your very very lucky op. And it's wondeful you adore her so much I hope she is going to get spoiled rotten tomorow.

My dm passed away and not once in over a decade has my Mil asked me about her and they didn't say a word when df passed away either.

This thread has made me cry, my MIL passed away last month. She was kind, gentle never interfered or criticised. I miss her so much , it breaks my heart that she didn’t make it to Christmas. Everyone with a great MIL give her a big hug when you next see her as you just never know what’s round the corner.

I love my mil. She is like my own mum. My exmils were awful so I'm glad I have an amazing one!

I have a difficult relationship with my MIL (dps step mum, he doesn't know his real mum).

Do didn't have the greatest upbringing and mil has a lot of her own issues. My best friend is dps sister, mils daughter and she isn't great with her either.

But as Dps dad is dead, MIL has ended up taking all the blame when actually their dad made alot of bad decisions. He just isn't around to face the consquences.