In wanting to end a friendship/poke sticks in their eyes?!

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NC'd for this as it may be outing.

DH, dd (4) and I went out on a Christmas outing with friends and their kids (2 & 5) yesterday.

We met up, did the activity, they came back to our house for a couple of hours then we went for dinner.

Their kids were jumping all over our beds and playing with ds's toys.

At dinner the kids all sat together and we're sharing off of each other's plates.

Towards the end of the meal the Dad says how they've all had fucking norovirus and the 2 year old had only stopped throwing up that morning!!

I'm fucking furious.

12-48 days puts us squarely in Christmas.

What the FUCK were they thinking??? Now I'm going to be paranoid as hell for the next 24 hours.

Not to mention they were in a busy place with lots of people, including a lot of babies.

Gahhhhh. People.

They've turned up at our house before with stinking colds, coughs etc which they've passed on but this has actually made me feel so mad I don't know I want to continue the friendship.

Am I being over the top and unreasonable?

I'd be annoyed too if they'd only stopped throwing up today.

But try to not be paranoid about it, there's a good chance you won't get it anyway and worrying will only spoil your Christmas.

Fingers crossed for you🤞🏼

100% pricks. Normal people would have told you beforehand and most likely suggested a raincheck.

Anti bac everything you can,
Let them know if you come down with it,
I would not be impressed!!!!! 😡

Thank you @justme28

I really hope so. But noro is SO bloody contagious. Sorry this is a huge drip feed and I meant to mention in op but both Dh and dd have a condition which means vomit bugs hits them REALLY hard and it can trigger migraines for them. Which are friends are well aware of.

Anti back doesn't really work for noro though. Just bleach.

I'm right in thinking normal people would keep their kids in for a couple of days and not go in to a packed public place right?!

No way would I be socialising with others so soon!!!

Utterly essential unavoidable trips only.

I'd be fuming too

Eurgh they really are inconsiderate if they knew about the migraines too. Some people just don't think.

I'd definitely let them know if you catch it.

YANBU. Did you say anything when he said that?

I am thinking there should be an insurance company that can sue feckless folk who spread their germs.
Hardly friends if they give zero fucks about your health - and Christmas!!

That's bang out of order of them.

What was your response to them?

I am sat here remembering how ill we all were when we caught it, how can anyone think it's ok to ignore the quarantine and spread it...

Hmmm actually SIL insisted on getting together for DN birthday. MIL had been exposed to it then came down the next day and us 2 days after that 🤮 it was awful took us weeks to fully recover!

My own sister has done this to us, twice. You can choose your friends!

I truly hope you don't catch it and can relax a bit over Christmas

Dh and I were so stunned we didn't really say much.

I said 'wow I thought the advice was to stay away from places for at least 48 hours after the last vomit' and they said 'yeah but they're feeling fine now.'

Selfish bastards.

We have such a full on Christmas planned. I'll be so sad if we get it and have to cancel everything.

DH has said he's totally done with them. Last time they gave us a hideous cold/cough thing dd ended up with a double ear infection and was off school for two weeks.

That would be the end of the friendship for me. No need for drama, I'd just stop taking all their calls, texts and messages or responding.

It is inconsiderate wankers like this, which spread norovirus quickly. I hope that you don't get it, angry on your behalf.

Ugh, so stupid and selfish!

Probably wouldn't be eager to meet up with them again, to be honest... And yes, I'd definitely let them know, if your family has caught the bug from them. They deserve to feel ashamed that they've spread the misery, though it sounds like they're so oblivious that they might not really care.

Yup that would be the end. Never again. So selfish.

I really hope you and none of your family get poorly. I would be furioua with them. I dont think i would have been able to hold back when he revealed the vomiting that day. Its so selfish of them.

DH has said he's totally done with them.

Do tell them why.

I hope they took their shoes off before jumping on your beds.

It's kicked my anxiety on to another level. It's really hard to manage around Christmas as it is. Ugh.

for you OP, they are very selfish and I wouldn't be spending any more time with them. Hope you manage to avoid it, good luck.

Aren’t you less likely to catch a flu/virus when you come in to contact with someone that’s just finished being ill? Is it usually the first 2 days of them being ill it’s the most contagious? If that’s true fingers crossed you’ve missed it! ❤️