In wanting to end a friendship/poke sticks in their eyes?!

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NC'd for this as it may be outing.

DH, dd (4) and I went out on a Christmas outing with friends and their kids (2 & 5) yesterday.

We met up, did the activity, they came back to our house for a couple of hours then we went for dinner.

Their kids were jumping all over our beds and playing with ds's toys.

At dinner the kids all sat together and we're sharing off of each other's plates.

Towards the end of the meal the Dad says how they've all had fucking norovirus and the 2 year old had only stopped throwing up that morning!!

I'm fucking furious.

12-48 days puts us squarely in Christmas.

What the FUCK were they thinking??? Now I'm going to be paranoid as hell for the next 24 hours.

Not to mention they were in a busy place with lots of people, including a lot of babies.

Gahhhhh. People.

They've turned up at our house before with stinking colds, coughs etc which they've passed on but this has actually made me feel so mad I don't know I want to continue the friendship.

Am I being over the top and unreasonable?

Someone fetched a toddler with noro to my wedding reception, she'd only stopped being sick that morning too.

About 70% of our guests caught it. Including me, DH and my elderly GPs.

Our wedding was 6 days before Christmas.

People are shitheads.

YANBU. My friend sent her kid back to school this week after he’d been vomiting with a virus. Completely unacceptable especially right before Christmas.

I would have to say something to them even if you don’t get it.

In 2019 dont see them from the 30th November until you've done all your Christmas fun.

I'd be fuming. And going crazy washing all bedding, cleaning etc...
I hope you don't get ill.

Selfish bastards! Christ. Beyond thoughtless.

Bleach everything and 🤞🏻

A friend did the same to me. She told me during a play date that her child had been up all night sick. My DT’s ended up in hospital from it. They were very tiny and had a lot of weight issues and it put them off food even more for ages. And they lost a lot of weight which they couldn’t afford to do as they were already below the percentile charts. It was awful.

I ended the friendship over it. It is beyond selfish to make the decision to bring your (likely) highly contagious children around everyone else. Since your friend had form for this I would tell her exactly what you wrote. She needs to know that it’s not ok to do that.
I really hope you do t end up getting sick.

Totally selfish and yet so many people do it. I wouldn’t end a friendship over it though

How did it go OP? Did you all survive unscathed? I hope so.

So, after all the worry, were you OK? Did you have an enjoyable Christmas?

@SheChoseDown @NitrousOxide

name changed but I'm the op.

We DIDN'T get noro but Christmas morning ds and I both woke up with the flu which floored us for a while.

Shittest Christmas ever!

Same friend asked to meet up last week for lunch with all the kids. I said I couldn't make it. Lots of Instagram posts literally an hour later saying 'how sick her poor babies are'.

So she was planning on dragging them out sick and possibly infecting people AGAIN!

She also in the last week has pulled some shit to do with a friend's baby shower, pushing me firmly out in the cold. Safe to say that friendship is DONE. And it feels like a massive weight has gone!

Ugh, I’m glad you didn’t get the bug but how horrid to get the flu.

Sounds like you’re doing the right thing getting rid of that ‘friend’. So fucking selfish the way she behaves.