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To think late-term abortion rules may need tightening up?

999 replies

FestiveNut · 23/12/2018 09:11

Should people be able to abort healthy fetuses in a low risk pregnancy past 20 weeks gestation?

I read a very sad story concerning this earlier. I considered myself pro-choice in all circumstances but this thread has caused me to question that.

Should the threshold be lowered?

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MamaDane · 24/12/2018 08:38

@JacquesHammer That's your opinion and you're entitled to it.

MsLucyLastic · 24/12/2018 08:40

I also appreciate that women have different opinions on when a foetus becomes a baby. Some when it is first born, some at 28 weeks as is currently law. I think I personally see it as around 24-28 weeks.

Having said that, that is my opinion not everyone's, but I find it really difficult to put that opinion to the side, and not let it have a bearing on my view. I know this should noy be the case, and I can just choose not to abort late if I have a problem.with it. I just can't seem to separate my opinion from what I think I should be the law.

I am not proud of this fact, but I just cant feel ok with something I disagree with so profoundly for myself. I wish I could be, because I hate that it makes me.less pro choice and I genuinely want to be.

JacquesHammer · 24/12/2018 08:44

That's your opinion and you're entitled to it

Gosh how generous Confused

Thank fuck where I live isn’t as backward

MamaDane · 24/12/2018 08:46

At week 23, a fetus is considered a baby in Denmark as it was previously 28, then 26 and now 23 as the viability of a premature has progressed throughout the years.

JacquesHammer · 24/12/2018 08:48

Viability only matters if the baby is a wanted pregnancy.

It shouldn’t be used as a tool to remove women’s rights.

BertrandRussell · 24/12/2018 08:51

The point is that I can only decide about my body and any abortion I might or might not choose to have. I have no right to decide about anyone else’s.

MamaDane · 24/12/2018 08:52

Nonsense. The baby has rights too. She/he has a body and a life. Murdering him/her is wrong. A woman's feelings don't matter more than the life of an unborn baby.

I think we will never agree because you only see it from the side if the woman and don't view the baby as a person, while I do. So perhaps this argument is pointless.

bumbleymummy · 24/12/2018 08:53

“A vanishingly small number of abortions take place after 24 weeks. And those are overwhelmingly in cases where the baby would be severely disabled or either the woman or the baby or both would not survive.”

Yes, because abortions after 24 weeks for non-medical reasons are currently illegal Hmm

Maldives2006 · 24/12/2018 08:53

My 1st baby was developing normally up until 19 weeks when my waters broke due to an incompetent cervix. After that point the lungs would not have developed and baby would have died in pain on an NICU. I terminated at 21 weeks.

The stigma around late term abortion is already there, the guilt will never leave me but I made the right decision for my son and my future fertility.

Any body who wishes to pass judgment has obviously never had to think about it personally.

MamaDane · 24/12/2018 08:53

This was at @JacquesHammer

gamerwidow · 24/12/2018 08:54

It's a small number over 22 weeks though 0.1% in england and wales

MamaDane · 24/12/2018 08:56

@Makdives2006 I don't think anyone judges you for this as your baby would have died in agony.

I don't think many are against abortions for the health of the baby in cases like this.

JustABetterPlayer · 24/12/2018 08:56

So if only a small percentage commit an heinous act it’s ok and we shouldn’t worry? Confused

gamerwidow · 24/12/2018 08:56

Maldives2006 don't feel guilty you spared your baby days of pain. It was the humane decision and I am grateful we live in a country that allows you that choice.

JacquesHammer · 24/12/2018 08:56

You don’t need to “@“, I’m on the thread. It would be great if you wouldn’t please as I still get emails despite turning it off!

The baby has rights too. She/he has a body and a life. Murdering him/her is wrong. A woman's feelings don't matter more than the life of an unborn baby

Stop using such ridiculous emotive language. You can’t murder a 24 week old foetus.

And actually, yes the women does matter more. Otherwise we’re saying a woman is nothing more than an incubator.

gamerwidow · 24/12/2018 08:59

JustABetterPlayer have you read Maldive2006 post. Are you really still happy with yourself for calling in a heinous act?

JustABetterPlayer · 24/12/2018 09:01

Jacques at 23 weeks perhaps, but many in this thread are advocating abortions up to full term for any reason which is quite frankly absurd.

Starfish28 · 24/12/2018 09:05

No we do not need to tighten the law. It needs to be as early as possible, as late as necessary, for any or no reason.
You can’t simply pick and choose which rights you support. Access to abortion is not as simple as clicking your fingers. Doctors act as gate keepers, as do physical barriers to access. Women opting for late term abortions (excluding those who decide to do it after a devastating diagnosis) are likely to be the most vulnerable women in society. We need to ensure every women is given access

TwistedStitch · 24/12/2018 09:07

Don't pretend you have the moral highground when you think a 12 week foetus should be given more consideration than a born woman MamaDane. You would force a rape victim to carry a pregnancy to term and give it up because you think a 12 week foetus matters more than her. A non sentient, non viable rudimentary form of life matters more than a woman. And it isn't just 'feelings' but her physical and mental health, not to mention potential life long trauma you would force on her.

Maldives2006 · 24/12/2018 09:07

It’s a mother’s guilt which anybody would have

Maldives2006 · 24/12/2018 09:08

This is also a really shit thread to start so close to Christmas and you have added to the pain of the mothers and fathers who have made this decision so for this I thank
You

Maldives2006 · 24/12/2018 09:09

So are the life’s of my subsequent children not of value in the eyes of god

JacquesHammer · 24/12/2018 09:11

Maldives you shouldn’t feel any guilt. You made a decision out of love and kindness Flowers

WereYouHareWhenIWasFox · 24/12/2018 09:16

I would personally like to see the limit increased to 28 weeks as it was before. For any reason whatsoever.

FestiveNut · 24/12/2018 09:18

@maldives2006 I started it in response to something I read which caused me to rethink my previous stance. I wanted to discuss this with others and read their opinions. If you don't want to think about it, don't read the thread.

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