To be completely shocked

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Had a family meal today at a pub with 6 members of DH's family including DH's grandad and his Mum (so my MIL).

It's was also DH's Grandad's birthday last week, so after the pub meal we all went to his house as MIL has bought a big surprise birthday cake.

MIL gets the cake out, "happy birthday Dad!"

I say "shall I get some plates?" And move toward the kitchen.

He then grabs the cake, shoves it in his fridge and says "that's not for shares".

I thought he was joking. He wasn't! Poor MIL was stood there holding the candles that she hadn't had chance to put on the cake.

Who does that? He's got form for being tight but this is a different level!

AIBU to think birthday cake is always shared or it's fine to keep your cake??

I would always share, especially in company!

How old is he? Is he on medication? Cut him some slack. He won't see it as being 'tight' - there's something else going on I suspect.

He's just plain rude!

Bit rude

@TwitterQueen1 like what?! He's a very active 80 and not on any meds.

Unless there are health issues at play (ie: dementia etc) he's a rude tightarse.

Some old people are funny like that.

As if you’d eat a whole cake yourself. I hope it gives him indigestion

Wowsers!
Well he definately knows what he wants.
Try it out for your next birthday.

Rude maybe, but it is his cake to do with as he wishes.

That's very weird. Maybe he just LOVES cake?! I feel the same way. But I do share because my child demands it.

Great idea Incoming! My birthday is in January so not long to wait!

I wouldn't do it but it genuinely wouldn't bother me to not be offered someone else's birthday cake.

I suspect Twitterqueen is right and there's something else going on.

I suppose he just really likes that cake.

The cake did look amazing.

Maybe he only gets cake once a year. When did anyone last bake him a cake? Maybe he thought it looked so delicious he really really didn't want to share it with anyone. What a lot of judgment and unpleasantness.

When did anyone last bake him a cake?

I doubt anyone will be rushing to do it again any time soon.

Is MiL his daughter, or his DiL?

I'd write it off as 'batty old guy'

DH has family members who do this...we take them a cake and they never offer us any. They also don't sing Haplpy Birthday when we do cake our house. When it was DHs birthday and the D.C. were too small to sing it was just me singing. They're odd.

Oh just move on and let him do what he feels he wants to. At his age he deserves it. No one could be that in need of a slice of cake after a meal out.

But on the other hand he may be at early stage dementia too. Or just a tight arse. Either way, leave it and let him at it.

MIL is his daughter! Sorry for confusion.

@TwitterQueen1 he's very well looked after, trust me. He's not wanting for anything, least of all cake!

Oh, when DH then said he'd make a cup of tea for us all his Grandad said no, he urgently wanted MIL to take him shopping.

Possibly for cream to go with the cake?!

that is bizarre

I'm sure the rest of the family will think so too...

Aw bless him, if he wants to eat the entire cake all by himself, then let him. When I'm 80, I fully intend to eat my whole birthday cake with a spoon, and the tablecloth tucked in as a napkin, and none of you are getting any!

@Heartofglass21 Goals!!

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Maybe he only gets cake once a year. When did anyone last bake him a cake?**

^Oh give over! His behaviour was stingy and rude.

This makes me quite sad actually. It’s strange behaviour, as is the urgent need to go to the shops despite people being in his house. It honestly sounds like the onset of my Gran’s dementia. Cut him a bit of slack or you may look back and regret it later.