To be completely shocked

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Had a family meal today at a pub with 6 members of DH's family including DH's grandad and his Mum (so my MIL).

It's was also DH's Grandad's birthday last week, so after the pub meal we all went to his house as MIL has bought a big surprise birthday cake.

MIL gets the cake out, "happy birthday Dad!"

I say "shall I get some plates?" And move toward the kitchen.

He then grabs the cake, shoves it in his fridge and says "that's not for shares".

I thought he was joking. He wasn't! Poor MIL was stood there holding the candles that she hadn't had chance to put on the cake.

Who does that? He's got form for being tight but this is a different level!

AIBU to think birthday cake is always shared or it's fine to keep your cake??

Not everyone turns sweet and kind just because they are over 80, and not everyone who is rude over 80 has dementia. They are just not nice people, like they were before they were old!

Sounds like he had enough of the fuss and the attention may have been unwanted, but still, denying children a bit of cake? Pretty selfish to me. I wouldn't bother in future. He clearly doesn't want the fuss anyway.

Howling with laughter. Everyone is so shocked he must be on meds

Exactly, he's just selfish not medically ill. But just shows HOW selfish for some to assume there must be something wrong!

All the family know what he's like, but not to let the kids have a slice was a bit much.

We will get him another cake next birthday, just maybe a smaller one!

Your thread title is a bit misleading then, as it gives the impression that his behaviour was out of character.

Going by your later comments, "Man behaves as he usually does" might be more accurate.

@Seeingadistance not really, I said in OP he has form. He's normally tight, but he's never snaffled away a huge cake and refused to share. Again as I said in OP, new level!

I know a younger adult who would do something like that. No medical problems, just a tight shit. They come in all age ranges. It may be a typical type of behaviour for him but sometimes the "what they do" is still shocking. Believable for them but shocking seeing it.
I wish age meant that little old ladies and gentlemen were sweet and polite and kind but judging by the rude shoving, barging and general bad behaviour I experienced in M&S yesterday by really mean, horrible tiny old ladies, it's just not true.

I feel sorry for his daughter, and the children. Not even letting them have some was really nasty.

We will get him another cake next birthday, just maybe a smaller one!

Smallest cheapest most shit cake you can find. One of those that look like they don't have one natural ingredient them.

I can't think of anything more sad than a birthday cake for one! The fun is in the sharing.

Part of the brain that deals with empathy and inhibitions is less active in older people. He also might be a bit confused. Just laugh it off

Confused, that's fascinating!

And English, totally agree, I love sharing food, it's part of the occasion. Ah well!