To refuse to go to the rabbit killer's birthday party

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A couple of months ago a family friend looked after our dog and my rabbit when we went on holiday. She was given very clear instructions about feeding the rabbit and everything was left out and couldn't have been made more simple. Got back and found my rabbit lying listless in the cage. The friend had gone through the cupboards and given her a bowl of some sort of dog supplements she'd found in there instead of proper food. Unfortunately my rabbit didn't survive.
I haven't seen this family friend since. Even though i don't know her all that well, for some reason I was asked to organise a birthday party for her. I booked a restaurant and it's for this evening. It's time to get ready and I'm feeling very angry again about what happened and don't want to go. Would I be unreasonable to make an excuse and not go?

A mistake is not animal abuse or neglect ffs.

The rabbit might have died of something else.

It was total stupidity

Well, at least you weren't my NDN. They managed to get my one of my bantam chickens killed and our ten aviary cockatiels!
And they still wanted us to refund them the £50 from the vets to have the chicken put down!

The more I think about it now, the more I think something dodgy went on.
They said the chicken got attacked by 'something' in the night and the disturbance make ALL the cockatiels die of fright.
They said they buried them, but never said where? And I never found a grave.
So it could be that they pinched them .
But this was 10 years ago and since then the husband died of brain cancer and she's not that well herself. So, I can't really hold a grudge.

Moral of the tale - don't ask someone you barely know to mind your pets!

Are you sure it was the other food that killed your rabbit? Did a vet confirm this? I have had rabbits a long time ago and I do k ow they can just "go" even though looking and acting fine shortly before. It's strange you describe the murderer as a friend yet also say you don't really know her. Don't go as you will probably sit there seething and may spoil the night.

Agree krustykittens

Your mum is the problem here, not so much her friend. Yes, her friend killed your rabbit, but your mum should have helped you to smooth things over with this friend ages ago, not just brush it all under the carpet. How odd.

Was the cause of death confirmed as the dog suplements by a vet or is the OP assuming her rabbit died from them?

I also cannot understand why the OP has not told the family friend that her rabbit has died! Whether it was accidental or not, the family friend should be aware of what happened and given a chance to explain / compensate.

IMO YANBU to avoid the party, but YABU to avoid confronting the family friend about it (just not at her birthday party).

I’m so sorry about your poor rabbit. If you’re sure it was an accident, which It certainly sounds like it was, then I would try very hard to forgive her. I understand you not wanting to go for a meal with her, but she doesn’t even know she harmed your rabbit and as you said, she’d be devastated if she knew. It sounds like a terrible mistake and forgiveness is needed. All the best.

She would be dead to me. If you don’t want to care for a pet properly then say no. I wouldn’t have organised her party but I def wouldn’t go.

I think you should go but if the bitch orders rabbit,get the hell out of there

Who told you the rabbit had had the supplements?