"Hate" in front of children

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My husband just listed the Christmas songs he "hates" in front of our 2.5 and 5 year old kids. I told him "hate" is a very strong word and he shouldn't use it in front of the children. He said I'm being ridiculous and it's fine to use it in the context of Christmas songs.

Who is right?

Your husband is right, you are being ridiculous.

Bloody hell my children quite often hear me swear (not ideal but sometimes I drop things/hurt myself) and an accidental "fuck" or "shit" slips out...

YABU and ridiculous

Crikey, who are you, Nedella Ding Dong Diddly Flanders.

you don't want them going around saying vehemently that they hate something with a nasty, vicious look on their faces.

Would love if OP’s DH was this emotional about Christmas songs

Haha fair enough, I accept I'm ridiculous.

His hated songs are mariah carey - all i want for Christmas, wham - last Christmas, and elton john - step into Christmas

I was with your husband.... until I read one was "Last Christmas"!!!

How can he hate that? Mariah, yes, that's definitely worthy of hate.

I know what you mean, I think hate is a very strong word and I do question my children if they use it (not to say they shouldn't but question the strength of what they're saying) They are absolutely not allowed to say they hate a person, I was raised that saying "I hate you" is the highest sin and it's stuck.

People who ban this word from being used or heard by their children always justify it by the same phrase - "hate is a strong word". I don't get it, what does that mean? Personally I like strong words. I'd rather hear 10 strong words than 100 weak ones.

I think it's weird, and me and my kids will say we hate whatever we feel like. My kids have strong preferences about some things, as do I, and I don't dissuade them from expressing them.

@LoveWasAccidental if a word is over used it loses its meaning/value, that's why I will ask my children why they feel so strongly about something if they've chosen to use "hate" and challenge them on it, not in a way to tell them off but it gets them thinking about the word? I'd like to think it improves their communication rather than stifle it, I'd do the same with other words like love.

Any person? Would Saville or Hitler be OK?

Well yes, but I probably wouldn't be discussing them in front of children tbh.

OP I’m the same as you- I don’t allow the H word in my home. All the children know this. It’s an awful word.