advice on how to decline CF

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Person maybe on here so not going to post too many details.

Single parent with ex 6 hours away
Other parent sends kid round (8yo) and goes out.
Constantly asks favors as they cant figure out some online stuff.
Works constantly and not around for kids.
Is loaded (100k+) but doesn't pay for professional childcare.
When I say No, she questions why as we are about anyway.
Leaves us in the lurch, agrees to babysit then travels for work and doesn't let us know so we have to cancel or rush around to get another babysitter.

I've committed to a few thing over x mas but need to know how to get out of future engagements without ruining the kids friendship?

Haha I thought cf ment cunt fuck

Say no and enjoy doing it, it’s great when you just say nah and watch the cheeky fuckers face become baffled when your as a woman used to being meek and appeasing to ‘keep the peace’just says ‘no.’ they expect you to fill the awkward silence with apologies and excuses, don’t do this.

She chose to have a kid and should have planned for and thought about childcare when planning to get pregnant, it’s a pretty huge and obvious part of parenting, it’s up to her to source and fund childcare, nothing to do with you.

Just say no

It's hard to refuse someone pushy. What worked for me was saying it aloud when I was alone, getting used to the feel and sound of the words. Not, 'I'm sorry' because you're not. Just 'No, I'm busy.' Say it in front of the mirror. Say it out loud. Again and again. Then when she asks, it's not a maiden trip for you to say No. Just No is a casual, unimportant way. Don't apologise, don't squirm. Shake your head, say No and change the conversation. 'But you've done it before' No. Try the mirror/saying it aloud thing, it works.

Just say no sorry I can't i have plans that day. I am sorry no we are busy. I am sorry i am washing my hair/shampooing the cat/vacuuming the ceiling.
Don't ask her to babysit.
Don't ask her for anything , then you don't 'owe' her anything.
Don't allow her to make excuses /wrap you round her little finger and don't answer the door if she drops by with the child.
I think u may have to let this 1 go cos even if your ds's friends with the boy there's a huge cf in his mother who seems to be persistently taking the p out of u.