Fallen for a man from Bulgaria, What to do?

[Daisydoooooo]

Both worked together abroad a few years ago. Now back in touch, we holiday together and he visits me here in the UK. I've fallen for him but how would this work long term? Not sure if he could live here due to us leaving the EU and I have no idea what Bulgaria is like to live. Is it really poor? Or a hard place to live?

Could you not ask him that?

Sorry ask him what?

What it’s like to live there?

Yes but I would like untainted views and more opinions before make a huge decision iyswim.

You holiday together but you haven’t visited Bulgaria, or met his family? Hmm.
Bulgaria has had its troubles but its a holiday destination now so get out there and get a feel for it! Or move him to the UK ASAP.

Could you go on holiday to Bulgaria?
Has he fallen for you too?

Yes have you been there yourself, as PP asked have you met his family?

Bulgaria is beautiful but very poor, very basic. Even in Sofia the roads and pavements are in a terrible state.

Go and stay with him for a couple of weeks.

But Bulgaria will be like the UK! Ie posh places/ poor places/ beauty sports/ industrial parts etc etc. What’s relevant is what Bulgaria is like where he lives (ie presumably where you would be considering moving to) and none of us knows that! Speak to him... visit his home

• beauty spots not sports!

Yes I've met his family and I've visited Bulgaria but I assume visiting briefly would be different than living there.

I would think most people in here who have visited Bulgaria would have been there on holiday, and that’s not the same as daily life there. So I get what you are saying about untainted views, but it wouldn’t give a full picture. Would he even be willing to move here for you?

We stayed in hotels so I don't feel like I've got the right feel of the place or what it would be like to live there iyswim

Ask on Living Overseas on here, or look up expat groups in line. I think there is one called Brits abroad.

Sounds like a nice country...

www.gov.uk/foreign-travel-advice/bulgaria/safety-and-security

First things first, is this a relationship? Has he fallen for you? Have you had discussions about the future in any way at all?

Long distance relationships i.e.expat relationships are very hard to maintain until either one of you is prepared to move. Do you e.g. have children to consider if you were thinking of moving? What about him? Work etc?

There are a lot of things to consider. I can’t move to be with my dp or the other way around and we only live 120 miles apart in the same country. But we knew how it was from the outset,and now circumstances mean that it’s unlikely to ever change.

IMO it’s better to be up front about the realities before becoming too involved. Then and only then will you have an idea of where you’re going and where the future potentially lies.

Even the nicest bits of the capital seem distinctly average to Brits.

If he moves to the UK before the end of March, he will maintain his right to stay regardless of Brexit. The day after and it will be too late.

Its not possible for him to move here before March unfortunately. What are the chances of him being able to move here after match?

March not match

I've been in a long distance relationship for over 2 years - neither of us have any plans to move countries at this stage. It doesn't have to be a deal breaker - of course we miss each other but we visit 6 times a year and for now that's enough. We've met each other's family, friends and work colleagues. Neither of u have to move necessarily - it's not going to make or break your relationship if you really love each other :)

My lovely neighbours are Bulgarian. They say the summers are much better than in the UK but it's pretty poor.

Is this a reverse? Is that you Roy?

Anyone in the U.K. from the EU before 31st of December 2020 will have the right to apply for “settled rights” meaning they can apply for leave to remain. No guarantees, even if they’ve lived here for years sadly.