I think my in laws are going to trump us...

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It's the first Christmas of awareness for my twins. They are very excited.

I have bought them things that I know they want and will love. I have put a lot of thought into these things.

I sent a list of other things they need to the in laws (they asked for a list). They have announced that they have got some of the items on my list but they have also got other things which they know the kids want. I am 90% certain they have got them the things I have got them- and probably spent more money on them as well...

We are going to the in laws for Christmas.

How do I handle this? AIBU to be utterly pissed off?

rocky relationship with my in laws

I knew it. Often we react to things on here as an isolated incident. To get to the position of being pi$$ed off about Christmas presents you have to have a whole other heap of cr@p going on too.

Basically the PIL (probably MIL) is undermining the parents and probably does this in lots of different ways. If you have ever been on the receiving end of something like this you would know how horrible it is.

My advice to the OP would be to sometimes go away at Christmas. It breaks up routine and gives you a break from they angst. Its bliss.

Why would you be pissed off about all this, its all very silly. I am sure that you can sort something out with your in laws,, or buy a bigger house to fit all the new toys into !!

If neither of you get on with them, why the hell are you going there?

They will kick off in some way either way, so you might as well have them kick off and nice peaceful Xmas at home.