Really need some advise on this, it's probably going to be long, around this time last year we ( partner, me and our 9 week old Dd ) got invited to mil's for Xmas, we politely declined and said we wanted Xmas in our own ( new ) home with our little baby also we was worried about our baby being near their dog, ( before I had my dd I always looked after their dog as she can be quite snappy and they were worried about the dog being around the other grandchild ) well... it turned quite nasty on their behalf mil called me ridiculous, told us how I ruined Xmas, told me the dog will categorically will not hurt my dd, this went on for days, we had Xmas at home but they were quite funny with me after Xmas right up until quite recent- some examples
- bringing their dog over knowing I didn't want her near my baby
- fil told me I'd let myself go
- mil just generally making comments and digs every visit
Just general stuff done to wind me up I feel, even partner has said they're playing a massive game and their actions aren't normal. I've lost so much confidence from it all. When they come to visit I get very anxious and usually ends in a bad headache,
So this year we've been invited Boxing Day bit because I feel my very first Xmas as mummy ( ttc over 3 years ) was completely spoilt, I don't want to go there, it's only been this past week that the comments have lessened I want Xmas to not be stressful I want to be in my own home ( my mum will come over and stay which I'm really looking forward to ) I don't want to go there, my dd is only one and doesn't understand to leave the dog alone, and if they put her in another room she always gets out and I think it's cruel to shut her away, so would I be unreasonable not to go? Partner wants to go still even if me and dd don't xx