Violent Ex telling me he's in hospital

[thelaststraw123]

Ok, back story...

I split with violent ex after he tried to strangle me. I'm now living in a refuge and trying to be NC with him.

He's contacted me tonight saying he's been rushed to hospital as he can't breathe and he's scared he's going to die.

Told me he loves me and that he's sorry.

AIBU to just ignore it cos I feel it's another game to reel me back in?

DO you a favour

With a bit of luck someone else has throttled him was my first thought, swiftly followed by lying bastard.
Please, please ignore and block, he's not worth one second of your life OP.

If he couldn't breath and was seriously ill he wouldn't be able to text ! Fighting for breath is horrendous and completely debilitating therefore he is not as ill as he says he is.

Well done for contacting the police. You've done amazingly

Mine told me his dad had died (hadn't) and various other similar lies.

You need to ignore - lies to suck you back or a truth that is his own business, when he hit you it ceased to be your concern. Good luck and stay strong, it is the only way.

Police were unable to pick him up!

He wasn't at home! What a surprise!!

Can't believe I almost fell for it!

Still trying to get me to engage on different numbers

Each time I block one, he messages on another one!!!

Police telling me just to ignore it and wait for them to pick him up!! But I've been waiting nearly 3 weeks already!!

My mental health is suffering with all this, and my anxiety is through the roof

Get a new phone number. Don't give it to him.

You need a new phone number. Speak to your mobile provider, if you are on contract, or just go and get a new PAYG SIM. Do not give him or any member of his family your number.

It sucks that you have to be the one going through all the faff of changing your number, but its worth it to get rid of that dangerous lunatic.

My goodness, abusers use a universal manual, I would just change your number now, keep deleting and blocking and hope that he will get bored after a while, when he is not getting the desired response.

May I ask - why has it taken nearly 3 weeks for the Police to attempt to arrest him - having attempted to strangle you?

why has it taken nearly 3 weeks for the Police to attempt to arrest him - having attempted to strangle you?

Good question.

YANBU. Block his dad, mum every family members number from your phone. You owe him NOTHING.

Floozy not too bad having the faff of changing a phone number, but seriously awful becoming a homeless refugee in order that he can abuse and stay in his home and keep everything.

When will it ever change, men should be driven out and kept away. Shocking that even today all we can do as women is hide and hide our DC.

Yet still it goes on...