To be annoyed when DH sits on the sofa wrong?

[mummy2709777]

I love DH but he always sits on the sofa wrong
He leans on the back cushions which is making them misshapen
He has offered to re-plump them after he uses the sofa but I think it's ruining the cushion
AIBU??

This is what happens to a lot of men . They try to have peaceable enjoyment of the home they partially own using the facilities ,fixtures,fittings and furniture that they have fully or partially paid for and yet some controlling woman makes them feel like they are a mere tenant of theres with their orders,demands and tut tutting..

Maybe you should consider bean bags

I wouldn’t mind if he fixed it afterwards. But he doesn’t. The sofa is just left looking like a cat bed. No-one rlse can sit comfortably in it until some bloody muggins (me) has to spend time reshaping it. It’s not about not allowing him to enjoy his home, it’s about making a mess and not clearing it up.

Yes yes. And we have throws on the sofas to keep them cleaner, and the way DH sits pulls the throw off the back of the sofa. And he does not tidy all this up afterwards either, oh no. Lord Muck he is...

THEN, to compound this error, he will only have one pillow on his side of the bed, so when I make the bed my side is massively higher with my two pillows. This looks daft enough, but the worst thing is when DH sleeps he folds his one pillow IN HALF and puts his head on the two pillow thickness.

I am going slowly demented.

Until just now I had no idea that you could sit on a sofa wrong

Yabbers meh, I don't feel getting my mum to sit on plump cushions leaning back is rude. She was worse than me when I was a child, we were literally banned from sitting on the sofa! (literally only have parents over as sitting guests due to my asd, other guests have small children so we're on the floor playing with them and they don't sit on my sofas)

I want shoes off too as I have two small children who pick up food off the floor and eat it, I'm sure that makes me ruder

Sorry but I'm with OP I'm a bit obsessive about my sofa too

Mine manages to somehow sit down halfway over the back cushions of my old couch and I had to unzip them and wash them to get them back into shape. Just plumping them didn't work. Hated it (on the plusside, my couch was really clean the whole time). We now ordered a smooth leather couch- no cushions to misshape anymore.

My DSIL never lowers herself onto the sofa properly. She always kind of collapses onto it from a standing position, rather than bending her knees and lowering herself onto it. I fear for the springs because she is a very large lady (I'm talking about 25 stone)

My DH does this, it drives me mad.

Yep my DH does this too. Hard to explain, I also didn't realise there was a 'wrong' way to sit on a couch until a couple of years ago!

We have an L-shape and he lies down the the end of it. Whatever he does, I now can't sit there because the cushions always feel as if they're about to fall of the end.

If this is the most annoying thing your husband does, you've got a pretty good deal.

OMG. this could be me starting this post.

I hear you. DH drags the back cushions somehow. I have the cushions off and flip them over so I push them back into shape on a regular basis.

Just when you think you can't be more amazed by other people.... along comes another MN classic!
A man is now accused of sitting on his own sofa, wrongly, in what is unbelievably panning out to be an actual moan and not some kind of humorous thread

LTB and log it with 101

Extra-tall penguin bollards all along the front of the sofa (you'll probably need about 36 for an average 3-seater, to make sure there's no room for his legs between any two of them).

Keep the 36 padlock keys on your person at ALL times and, whatever you do, don't EVER let him get his hands on them. You may wish to get another few hundred identical-looking fake keys to keep with them on the bunch to thwart him, just in case he manages to get them from you when you aren't looking.

Every time you want to sit down, simply choose which seat you want to sit in (rotating the seats you use will prolong the sofa's life), find the correct 12 keys, unlock the bollards and sit down. Use 24 or 36 keys if you have guests, as appropriate.

Make sure you lock them straight back up again whenever you go to the toilet or to get a drink if he's in the house with you.

Don't be harsh, though - get him an upturned orange box so he has somewhere to sit as well.

I completely understand your pain - we got a bed that we wanted to display in our DS's room and, every single night, as I live and breathe, he insists on SLEEPING in it.

Males are despicable creatures.

Yep, DP does this too, our 1 year old sofa now looks worn and tatty because somehow he manages to drag the back cushions down...and then squashes them further down with his arm

And our sofa isn't a trendy low backed one, the cushions reach the back of his head