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Dilemma at DPs work with medication.

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onalongsabbatical · 15/12/2018 13:04

Posting here for traffic. Here’s the dilemma – my DP saw someone at work, call him Bob, giving someone else, call her Anna, some medication that had been prescribed for Bob. He then said that they weren’t really anti-depressants but they helped and to take them out of the box because the box had his, Bob’s name on it. My DP is now troubled. No-one of these three is anyone else’s superior. There’s no HR dept to tell. DP has emailed boss and boss has said don’t worry, Anna is fine, you’re overthinking.
If Anna is depressed and takes an inappropriate medication it could make her feel worse and she could presumably be at risk of harming herself or someone else in which case Bob’s in the shit, too, right?
But given boss is saying do nothing, nothing to see here, should DP just butt out having done all he can do?
WWYD?

I don't know any of these people I'm just trying to help DP who's obviously been disturbed by what he's seen, which was in the open by the way, at the start of a meeting, not in some dark corner.

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Elphie54 · 15/12/2018 16:16

“Is the boss a qualified medical practitioner or pharmacist with full knowledge of Bob and Anna's medical history? If not, he can't know that it was fine.”

No but the boss may know the situation and possibly even have documentation of both peoples private medical information.

My employer has documentation from my doctor about medication I take/medical problems I have. If anyone questioned something related to my health, I would furious and take legal action if they shared that with another employee.

We don’t know the details, all we have is bob gave Anna something and one overheard sentence. From there Op and her dp are jumping to conclusions.

Boss is aware. Boss says it fine. Leave it there.

ilovesooty · 15/12/2018 16:19

She already said she's leaving it there.

Missingstreetlife · 15/12/2018 16:20

Why go to the boss first?
Brief word to Anna and bob

Accountant222 · 15/12/2018 16:21

Half of Sheffield take my very good arthritis anti inflammatories

onalongsabbatical · 15/12/2018 16:26

Went to the boss rather then the people concerned really to be discreet and not embarrass either of them. Confronting them didn't seem very sensitive.

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InspectorIkmen · 15/12/2018 16:27

SGB nails it

Does your DP meddle in your life, as well, or are you a pair of officious busybodies, never happy unless you can drop someone else in it? Both of you need a sharp lesson in keeping your beaks out of other people's business, by the sound of it

And to the first person who suggested 'logging it' with the Police - Grin Grin - go on then! Go on. Dare you. See what they say. Fuck's sake - can't even believe I read that. Log it with the Police. Saints bloody preserve us!

onalongsabbatical · 15/12/2018 16:28

sooty she's not listening! Thank you for being my ally. Flowers

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kateandme · 15/12/2018 16:29

if its something as strong as a mind altering one like anti psychotics are something id like to think the colleague wouldn't give this or share.if hes that worried he could ask the woman."just saw bob giv eyou some meds you ok"

onalongsabbatical · 15/12/2018 16:30

InspectorIkmen thanks for that, did you read the bit where I was a lonely kid who took an overdose so I'm probably a bit prone to over-react to things like this?

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Elphie54 · 15/12/2018 16:32

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Worriedmummybekind · 15/12/2018 16:36

Elphie54 - tone it down. I agree but no need to get over the top.

Finfintytint · 15/12/2018 16:43

Elphie, can’t see how you come to that conclusion. OP has conceded that her dp has done all that can be done. In my last profession acts like this can lose you your job or result in a criminal conviction. Really stupid to offer or take medication that is not prescribed.

Also, you’d be disciplined for knowing about it and not doing anything about too ( plenty have been sacked for doing naff all). A previous poster gave good advice about documenting the report.

onalongsabbatical · 15/12/2018 16:47

As simply as possible, for a certain goady fucker. I have my own history of mental ill-health and extreme distress and depression. Because of this I happen to empathise with other people who might be going through the same. I also recognise that I get very emotional about things and can’t always make a clear decision. I thought that having flagged it with the boss it was best to then leave it and that anything more would be crossing a line. But I had a niggling doubt so I started the thread to see what people’s opinions were. Pretty much everyone agrees there’s nothing more to be done. Including me.
Job done. Thank you, everyone. Continued discussion is interesting but now academic. Insults are completely unnecessary. I really appreciate the consensus opinion. Mumsnet is wonderful.

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Elphie54 · 15/12/2018 16:49

False allegations can also ruin people’s lives as well aa get other people in trouble as well.

Several years ago, some asshole I work with reported me taking medication while at work. I was immediately suspended pending investigation. It took over a month to come back because they needed a ton of documentation showing that it is prescribed to me and I’m stable on medication. All because someone wanted to snitch and not mind their own businesss. They no longer work there because they have made false allegations against other people several months after that incident.

People like OPs Dp piss me off. I almost lost my job because of it.

Finfintytint · 15/12/2018 16:50

Your dp did the right thing OP.

onalongsabbatical · 15/12/2018 16:53

Well that explains it. We're really coming from opposite places. I'm really sorry that happened to you, nothing like that is happening here. My DP works for a very small firm and the ethos would be one of support and concern first, not jumping to assumptions.
Certainly no intention to get anyone in trouble.

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Mummylife2018 · 15/12/2018 16:55

St John's Wort is still dangerous! It interferes with blood thinning medication and can cause cardiac arrest!!!!!!

PitterPatterOfBigFeet · 15/12/2018 17:28

I would be worried about the person taking the medication that hasn't be prescribed but I don't see how it's really a work issue (except that they happened to exchange it while at work - they could just as easily have done so somewhere else). I'm not sure what DH or the manager could have done to help anyway. He can't insist she doesn't take medication (prescribed or not) outside of work.

IHATEPeppaPig · 15/12/2018 18:34

OP you seem to be getting a hard time- whilst yes, it is none of your business, it is illegal to give other people your medication and they can be done for drug dealing (if we are talking about diazepam etc.) if Anne was to have an adverse effect from taking it. If they are willing to take that risk then so be it....

IHATEPeppaPig · 15/12/2018 18:35

@InspectorIkmen it is actually illegal to give other people your meds and depending on what it is they could be done for drug dealing, so it isn't as stupid as you think!

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