To find it a bit upsetting that my Dec born dc gets shit presents...

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From relatives. I know it's an expensive time of year but it's the same date every year, hardly shocking.

I put a lot of effort into all my nieces and nephews birthday presents throughout the year and wouldn't dream of wrapping their present up in Christmas paper or spending £3 on a present "because it's Christmas soon". Every birthday so far this has happened!

I'm probably being unreasonable, but I just feel sorry for my dc!

My SIL has kicked off already this year because her PFB hasn't got as many presents as my DS1 from MIL. Apparently MIL loves my child more than hers

No, she doesn't, it's because DS1's bday is Christmas Day and she's laid them all out together. (They aren't even in Xmas paper, because she knows that's a sucky thing to do)

So even when people do all the right things for Xmas day birthdays, someone still thinks it's unfair on them. Or maybe that's just my childish SIL

This always makes me quite sad. I have a niece with a boxing day birthday, and we actually put in more effort when selecting a present and choosing a really nice BIRTHDAY wrapping and card, as she does get overlooked a lot, or just thrown in with general Christmas stuff.

DD's birthday is at the beginning of January and family either forget all together or, because she's the only girl in the family on both sides, they buy her a dress for her birthday as it's apparently the only chance they get to shop for girly clothes.

Problem is she's a proper tomboy and has never worn any of the dresses she gets

*My SIL has kicked off already this year because her PFB hasn't got as many presents as my DS1 from MIL. Apparently MIL loves my child more than hers hmm

No, she doesn't, it's because DS1's bday is Christmas Day and she's laid them all out together. (They aren't even in Xmas paper, because she knows that's a sucky thing to do)*

Please tell me you have this on a text/email thread or anywhere written down to whip out on her child's Bday and ask her where your DS's birthday gifts are

*My SIL has kicked off already this year because her PFB hasn't got as many presents as my DS1 from MIL. Apparently MIL loves my child more than hers hmm

No, she doesn't, it's because DS1's bday is Christmas Day and she's laid them all out together. (They aren't even in Xmas paper, because she knows that's a sucky thing to do)*

Please tell me you have this on a text/email thread or anywhere written down to whip out on her child's Bday and ask her where your DS's birthday gifts are

Be like the queen and have two birthdays

No I haven't Loudbat, it's just second hand from MIL who almost rolled her eyes out of her head when she told me...

Me and my 3 DC are all born in winter. So we have sort of made a family policy of no major purchases. Whenever we can buy new bikes or gadgets - we'll do that without occasion. And Xmas/birthdays are for partying.

DD is Christmas eve and I insisted from the start that she gets separate presents wrapped in birthday paper and everyone always has.

I just told my boss off because he gets his early-Jan birthday nephew one gift wrapped in xmas paper.

DD has hers on the 17th and this has honestly never been a problem. Lucky with families I guess!

YANBU. My birthday is a couple of days after Christmas, and it was crap as a kid.

"Oh sorry, we forgot it was your birthday, it's just so busy with it being Christmas..." No you didn't you lying toad, you just couldn't be arsed!

"This is for Christmas AND your birthday..." Thanks for that, but without sounding ungrateful all the other kids get 2 presents so it's a bit mean that I don't.

I used to have a party either before or after, and my parents bought me a present in the summer instead 😊

My daughter is a Christmas Day baby. We have always done a separate party for Christmas Night. All presents wrapped in birthday gift wrapping. When she was a child we did a friends sleepover on NYE.

I actually enjoyed having a December birthday, it was fun having two lots of stuff so close together. Well, I knew no different of course but it was never a problem.

People run out of ideas though but they can give vouchers, flowers or cash depending on the age of the birthday girl/boy. Youngsters always want a bit of cash.

Never mind what insensitive others do or don't do, let's all of us be sure never to ignore anyone's Christmas/new year birthday. Sorry, that sentence is not grammatical.

I am a december baby and I hated it as a kid too. It was totally overshadowed by xmas . Best mum award goes to my mother as she knew how it pissed me off so she told everybody that my official birthday was now in July. I got to have a party in the summer and got all my gifts then and we just had a nice dinner for my "real" birthday and it made a massive difference.

YANBU

My DC both have December birthdays. MIL makes an effort to give them separate presents but my own parents are pretty rubbish. This year they've given DC money for Christmas/birthdays but have given exactly the same amount to my sister's children who have summer birthdays. It sucks and is unfair to them!

Mine is Dec 31st, can't do anything for it cos everyone out for New Year.

Two nieces with early Dec birthdays get exact amount spent on them as other nieces and nephews, I budget thorughhout the year

This happened to my mum - birthday 19th - util she married. Dad always made a big effort with her birthday presents, and so did we when we were old enough to understand, to make up for it.

If the wider family won't make the effort, then you will have to.

shepherd Happy Birthday!

Mine is tomorrow. I never minded joint presents as the ones from my parents were twice as big. I did mind everyone being too busy to celebrate though as I got older, and people bailing because of winter colds

I think a lot of december born people severely overestimate the amount of fuss and presents that everyone else gets.

I think a lot of december born people severely overestimate the amount of fuss and presents that everyone else gets

Maybe. But DH literally doesn’t get anything from his family for his December 23rd birthday. Occasionally an e-card. Whereas his sister gets taken out for dinner, gifts etc for her September birthday.

One of my friends son's birthday is on Christmas Eve. Ever since he was small he has had what they call a "present day" on a particular date in June. He gets gifts and a party with friends. They do a low key thing with a cake on his actual birthday but no gifts.

He loves it!

It doesn't help shops are full of Christmas tat starting October now!

DS is early November and it definitely took some searching for non Christmas card and wrapping paper .

I needed a plain card for late November for my mum and there was nothing, DS ended up making it.

My late-December boy doesn't seem to mind; he's just doubly excited at this time of year!

We do separate presents and go out for a curry on his birthday, which is a welcome change from cooking for me tbh. Put up birthday balloons etc after Boxing Day.
Parties can be problematic as everyone is away, but we try to cobble something together.

The hardest bit is finding a cake in the supermarket! (I don't bake)

My dad, grandmother and DH’s birthdays are all in December and I haven’t had any trouble finding birthday cards and wrapping paper however. The supermarkets have all had them, and even the nice independent shops in the village have still got non Christmas card sections.