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To think this was awful of DP

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Spanglyprincess1 · 12/12/2018 21:56

Ds 5mths old and been sleeping through untill last week. Had five bad nights on the bounce, me doing all night feeds and dp lying in as tierd from baby and needed to drive.
Last night was worse, baby screaming n waking every 45 min for comfort. Dp got up at three am and went to living room to sleep. I had a birthday gift of a arts course in the morning at half ten, do off work to have baby in day. By eight am I was in tears as so tierd and shouted shut up please to baby (bad but I was broken). Dp came in said you shouldn't shout. I asked him to take him as I couldn't cope, he said no as doing other children packed lunches and needed to do school run.
I sat in our room in floods of tears holding the baby while he just walked in and out. As he left he asked me to defrost ds milk in freezer, change and dress him before I went out.
I'm so angry with him for leaving me like that with a small baby when I wasn't coping and he was in a position to help me. I was so upset. I also couldn't enjoy my treat as I was so echusted (2nd baby fee day since D's was born). Oh and he was late back to get ds too as he was busy for me to go out.
Aibu? (I should say he's tonight offered to have baby in living room so I can try n sleep a bit which is good)

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Spanglyprincess1 · 13/12/2018 08:20

Baby was better last night woke up four times after one am. I did the one am feed anyway but then left dp to it and got up to help find shoes etc with kids this morning. Baby seems a lot happier although I'll still speak to pharmacy and I'm a lot more myself.

Hats off to the single moms who do this on their own with bad sleepers!

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Spanglyprincess1 · 13/12/2018 08:28

Oh and the first thing I said to do was thank you for having him and how was he. To be told he's tierd and then having only one is easy :(
Sigh. Anyway everyone is happier including baby

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CollyWombles · 13/12/2018 08:47

Your DH should definitely have taken the baby and given you a hug. After being a single parent to four kids at one point all aged 5 and under, I fail to see why he was not capable of stepping in when you were clearly at breaking point.

Pack lunches can be made the night before and clothes for school can be laid out the night before too.

Spanglyprincess1 · 13/12/2018 08:50

He did do the night shift bar the one feed. I'm such a better mom today as I've slept. Baby is happy and I can play with him rather than just try to keep eyes open and feed him

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Spanglyprincess1 · 13/12/2018 08:50

I mean he did do the night shift last night.

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