Friend just bailed on me...

[Driana555]

I have an 8 week old daughter. Spent all week preparing mentally to leave him to go on my work do which is tomorrow night. My friend who was meant to have my daughter for me has just bailed, at 19:45 the night before saying she has a cold. Fair enough I can't argue with or be annoyed at that... AIBU though to be really gutted that I can't go? I've paid £40 for it which is a lot to lose at the moment and was just looking forward to my first adult meal in weeks. Even bought a lovely outfit to cover my postpartum wobbly bits. Why am I so upset? I could genuinely cry. It's pathetic. Literally have nobody else to have her this short notice.

Gutted... :(

Or, is there someone who can buy your place? At least then you'll get your £40 back and save the outfit for Christmas Day

We heard you did 🙈😂

Del

Del

have reported myself...[fembarrassed]

What a PLonker.

Sorry OP. shuffles off back under the duvet

It’s a shame. You haven’t actually ‘lost’ £40 though have you? You have saved the money you would have spent on drinks etc, you are just missing out. It is still rubbish but I never understand the idea of being worse off because you missed an event you had paid for.

Wow Del - that's the best multiple post I've seen on here!

OP get sitters.co.uk on the case, they'll have someone newborn trained who will look after you LO for you and you'll have a lovely time.

Where in the country are you? Someoymag know a reliable sitting company?

Oh man I would much rather a friend turned up with her 8 week old than without. I mean, these days I would immediately kidnap the 8 week old and enjoy two hours of squidgy cuddles. But even before I had a baby I wouldn't have minded.

I'm sorry OP it's really hard when someone lets you down last minute. Sending hugs x

Cant believe you cant take your baby along with you for a lunchtime do! Get on the whats app group and simply tell them your babysitter has let you down and that you will be bringing your little one. Leave it at that...I would be shocked that anyone would say no

I took mine to a lunchtime Xmas meal - baby slept through the whole thing which was good I didn't fancy breastfeeding infront of colleagues (no problem in front of strangers)

I think you were awesome for feeling able to leave baby with a friend at 8 weeks. Don’t worry about not feeling a teenager is a suitable option. I left ds1 for first time at 4mo with his dad and I was beside myself. It was our best friend’s BIG bday and we shared the night: husband went first then taxi’d back and I got in for a 10-1 shift 😂 I don’t think I left DS again until he was over a year old. We have no local family options so pal backup is gold dust

Eh? They don't own the pub! You can take your baby if you want to?! I certainly wouldn't leave an 8 week old baby with anyone. Take the baby if you want to go (I personally wouldn't want to go as they sound like arseholes).

I have to go against the grain and say I can see why they don't want any children at all.

Even though the babybwont be any hassle it does change the tone of afternoon esp if they are making a day and night of it. They prob don't want baby talk or cuddles etc which they will feel the need to say , people are more on edge with children there.

Though It soes suck you can't go at all though, don't send the dress back though, there will be other nights x

Well it’s that time of year when there SHOULD be room for a little baby in the inn....

Taking the baby would have been the obvious solution except not sure how you can do that if others have asked and have been told No. I don't think they are unreasonable to not want babies at the event.

I'm just not going to go. It's not the end of the world I'm just disappointed. Was looking forward to feeling normal for a moment! Never mind.

I don't think you can take the baby really if they've already said no. Having children around an adult event does change things somewhat.

Such a bummer for you though, I'm sorry op.

Take the baby! Don’t ask your colleagues, tell them you’ll have to bring him so you don’t lose the money for the meal. It’s 1pm in a pub. There may even be other babies there