I think this is another example of why 50 shades was fucking dangerous. 50 shades wasn’t BDSM, it was non consensual and coercive bollocks. However, it’s popularity has helped increase the myth of what proper BDSM actually is. Add in the fact that a woman’s sexual past and preferences are used against her and there was no way he was going to be found guilty of murder, despite the fact that none of the people I’ve ever met or spoken too hit around the head bar one or two slaps on the face if that’s something their partner likes. I know pretty hardcore BDSM participants who won’t even do that.
Safety is the biggest thing in genuine BDSM and no one with any real liking for it would play with someone wasted.
It’s no wonder more and more women who like BDSM will only play in clubs where you have the safety of other people around.